5 Things Every Boy Needs to HEAR!


Are you the parent of a boy?

Or, maybe several boys?

Possibly you have a grandson or a nephew?

Whatever your relationship, it’s essential to know that boys need to hear certain things from us.

Like our daughters, they need to hear positive words and phrases from us on a regular basis; however; our boys need to hear those words that are specific to their gender and their masculine DNA.

Would you like some tips on how to raise your boys to be fine men? One of the best ways you can inspire your boys is to give them positive and powerful encouragement. Here are 5 things you can say your boys as you wisely teach and parent them.

I am privileged to be the mom of both a boy and a girl.

And, our girls have certain things they need to hear.

In fact, I wrote an article called, “5 Things Every Daughter Needs to Hear,” a post that you can read by pressing HERE.

Today’s feature; however, is written with my son in mind. (He is pictured with me here.)

Would you like some tips on how to raise your boys to be fine men? One of the best ways you can inspire your boys is to give them positive and powerful encouragement. Here are 5 things you can say your boys as you wisely teach and parent them.

Here are 5 Things Every Boy NEEDS to Hear:

1) “You are LOVED!”

We love you, period!

We love you as a person, as an individual, and as God’s perfect creation.Would you like some tips on how to raise your boys to be fine men? One of the best ways you can inspire your boys is to give them positive and powerful encouragement. Here are 5 things you can say your boys as you wisely teach and parent them.

It doesn’t matter what you do or what you don’t do.

It doesn’t matter where you go or where you don’t go.

It doesn’t matter what you choose or what you don’t choose.

We just love you as you are, and nothing can change that!

And, by the way, your heavenly Father loves you too!

In fact, in Romans 8:38-39, He promises that NOTHING can change His love for us or separate us from His love:

“None of this fazes us because Jesus loves us. I’m absolutely convinced that nothing—nothing living or dead, angelic or demonic, today or tomorrow, high or low, thinkable or unthinkable—absolutely nothing can get between us and God’s love because of the way that Jesus our Master has embraced us.”

Our boys need to hear often that they are loved and accepted unconditionally, much like the way our God loves us.

(My son as a little guy is pictured below).

Would you like some tips on how to raise your boys to be fine men? One of the best ways you can inspire your boys is to give them positive and powerful encouragement. Here are 5 things you can say your boys as you wisely teach and parent them.

2) “You are GOOD at ____.” 

(Fill in the blank with at least one thing that your boy does well).

Boys need to be encouraged in their skills and abilities; they need to be verbally told that they are good at least one thing.

Feeling “significant” is huge for our boys.

Let me illustrate…

For several years, I had the chance to work in an elementary school that was attended only by boys. It was an all boys’ school.

As a young, single college graduate, I spent many hours everyday training, instructing, helping and equipping 8-9-year-old young men.

I remember one of the very first lessons that I learned about boys – they respond very well to sincere praise and compliments.

When I would offer a good word to one of my young students, I would watch his shoulders visible lift. There might be no other reaction, but the shoulder lift happened every time with every boy that I praised.

Boys need to have their “shoulders lifted” daily.

So, what about your boy(s):

  • What are you saying to the boys in your life that will lift up their shoulders?Would you like some tips on how to raise your boys to be fine men? One of the best ways you can inspire your boys is to give them positive and powerful encouragement. Here are 5 things you can say your boys as you wisely teach and parent them.
  • How are your sincerely complimenting their hard work?
  • What are positive skills, talents, and abilities you encouraging?

For example, my son is a computer whiz.

Since he was 18 months old, he has loved to play on, tinker with and use computers. (Riley is pictured above at about that age).

We complimented his skills from the very first time that we noticed those skills. And, for most of his life, we have encouraged him in the direction of computers with our words, our time and our money.

In about a year, he will complete his college degree in the field of Computer Science and go on to create “code” and “programs” of some type with some company.

What about your boy? What is he good at?

  • Maybe he is good at sports,
  • Maybe he loves to cook,
  • Maybe he is great with people,
  • Maybe he is an excellent writer,
  • Maybe he is mechanical and can fix anything,
  • Maybe he can argue and debate with the best,
  • Or, maybe there is some other skill that your boy has.

Whatever his skills and interests may be, I encourage you to tell him how good he is at these things.

Open your mouth and give that young man hope!

Remind them over and over about their giftedness.

And, watch for the shoulder lift~

3) “God has a GREAT PLAN for your life!”

Our boys need to know that Almighty God created them as an original, a one-of-a-kind masterpiece.

They also need to hear how this same God has an amazing plan for their lives.

This is a great time to share Bible verses of hope with our boys.

Here are a few that I have shared and continue to share with both of my kids:

~Psalm 139:13-16

Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out;
    you formed me in my mother’s womb.
I thank you, High God—you are breathtaking!
    Body and soul, I am marvelously made!
    I worship in adoration—what a creation!
You know me inside and out,
    you know every bone in my body;
You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit,
    how I was sculpted from nothing into something.
Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth;
    all the stages of my life were spread out before you,
The days of my life all prepared
    before I’d even lived one day.

~ Jeremiah 29:11

‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.’

~ Philippians 1:6

“being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ;”

Remind your boys that God does have a plan and a special purpose for their lives.

Young men especially can “lose their way” between the ages of about 16-26.

We must speak these truths into their lives.

  • Text them.
  • Email them.
  • Call them.

Remind them over and over – “God has a very special and amazing plan for your life.”

(Riley is pictured below at about age 8).

Would you like some tips on how to raise your boys to be fine men? One of the best ways you can inspire your boys is to give them positive and powerful encouragement. Here are 5 things you can say your boys as you wisely teach and parent them.

4) “Life will have many CHALLENGES!”

We need to teach our boys that life will not be without its hard days, bad days and really difficult moments.

We do not need to remove every obstacle from their lives or rescue them from everything Would you like some tips on how to raise your boys to be fine men? One of the best ways you can inspire your boys is to give them positive and powerful encouragement. Here are 5 things you can say your boys as you wisely teach and parent them.hard. Our boys need to understand what it is to work hard, face troubles and deal with adversity.

Of course, we can support them, encourage them and pray for them; but we must let them FACE real life.

As moms especially, we must not coddle them and hover over them like giant helicopters.

We must let our boys be boys so that they can become men – strong men.

And, show them how to turn to Jesus when life gets hard. Teach them to pray, to look into God’s Word and to depend upon their Savior when storms blow into their lives.

In John 16:33, Jesus promised:

“These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world, you will have tribulation, but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”

Remind your boy(s) often that life has some great challenges.

5) “You were made to be STRONG, to LEAD and to WORK HARD!”

Explain the way that God set up roles for men and women, and how things are to be established in the home.

You can use Genesis 3 and the story of Adam and Eve to explain these things to your boys.

I’ve listed the particular verses that pertain to the roles that God set up:

Then he said to the woman,

“I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy,
    and in pain, you will give birth.
And you will desire to control your husband,
    but he will rule over you.”

And to the man he said,

“Since you listened to your wife and ate from the tree
    whose fruit I commanded you not to eat,
the ground is cursed because of you.
    All your life you will struggle to scratch a living from it.
It will grow thorns and thistles for you,
    though you will eat of its grains.

 By the sweat of your brow
    will you have food to eat
until you return to the ground
    from which you were made.
For you were made from dust,
    and to dust, you will return.”

Explain to your boys that God made them strong for a reason.

They are to lead their homes and families well and to work hard.

Teach them the importance of hard work – especially for men.

Would you like some tips on how to raise your boys to be fine men? One of the best ways you can inspire your boys is to give them positive and powerful encouragement. Here are 5 things you can say your boys as you wisely teach and parent them.Some people may think that this is instinctive for young men, but I’m seeing a rather disturbing shift take place in this current generation of young adults.

My husband and I live in a place where we are surrounded by many twenty-somethings, most of them newlyweds.

In many of these homes, the young women are going out and serving as breadwinners while the men stay at home and “play” or work just a little. Many of the men are becoming the primary caretaker of the kids while these wives work all of the time.

I am not against women working at all. I applaud these young girls and their willingness to give 100% for their families. So many women are incredibly gifted and capable, and I am all for women using these talents.

And, sometimes there are unusual circumstances where a wife and mom must be the primary breadwinner.

However, I am deeply concerned about a generation of very lazy, carefree young men who are not taking up the mantle and providing for their families.

God specially crafted our young men to go out, work hard and bring home provision. They are “designed” to do this.

Please teach your boys to be strong leaders, to be good providers and to get up and take care of their families.

Their future wives and kids will thank you.

(Pictured below is Riley for his senior pictures).

Would you like some tips on how to raise your boys to be fine men? One of the best ways you can inspire your boys is to give them positive and powerful encouragement. Here are 5 things you can say your boys as you wisely teach and parent them.

Every boy needs to hear positive encouragement from their parents and those who love them.

It is essential that your boy(s) hear these 5 things:

1) “You are LOVED!”

2) “You are GOOD at _____________.”

3) “God has a GREAT PLAN for your life!”

4) “Life will have many CHALLENGES!”

5) “You were made to be STRONG, to LEAD and to WORK HARD!”

I encourage you today to open your mouth and start speaking these things into your boy’s life today.

You might just start with one of the five.

Go for it!

And, then, watch for the shoulder lifting.

It might be slight, but I think you will see it~


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56 thoughts on “5 Things Every Boy Needs to HEAR!

  1. This is one where the button needs to say “LOVE” not “LIKE”!!! There is a ton of wisdom shared in this post…and…a whole lotta love!

  2. I love this post! I have one boy in a house full of girls (at least until daddy gets home from work and evens the playing field a little, haha)…I totally understand how he needs to be spoken to and treated differently. I’ll admit I need to work on #4…I think I do too much for him, but you are right that life will be challenging and he needs to learn to figure out and do for himself sometimes now to practice for later in life. I am sharing this on my Facebook page, http://www.facebook.com/rahabtoriches

    Thanks again for the great article.

    1. Hey Miranda,

      Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment today!

      I’ll bet it is interesting at your house with online boy. And, they are so different from their sisters, aren’t they! It sounds like you are a GREAT mom!

      And, I really appreciate you sharing this post today. I’ll stop by your FB and check it out!

      Thanks for encouraging me today~
      Melanie

    1. Thanks, Minnie, for stopping by and leaving a comment! I appreciate you and your visit!

      And those computer guys are a pretty unique kind of child to raise, aren’t they!

      I look forward to connecting again in the future!
      Blessings to you,
      Melanie

  3. Great post!!! Reminds me of my oldest (also a computer whiz) 🙂 These are all wonderful things we need to say to our sons, over and over! Thanks for sharing at Together on Tuesdays!

    1. Thanks so much for the kind words! I really appreciate you stopping by and leaving a comment!

      And, aren’t those computer whiz children fun (and incredibly unique)!

      Look forward to connecting again with you in the future~
      Blessings,
      Melanie

  4. Thank you so much for these reminders, sometimes it is easy to forget or to get too busy, and our boys deserve to hear all of these to become who God intended them to be!

    1. Hey Nikki,

      Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment tonight. I always appreciate visits from new friends!

      And, we can forget how much our boys need to hear kind words, can’t we!

      Blessings to you,
      Melanie

  5. This is one of my favorite articles, being the grandmother of a precious grandson.i have been ringing the bell of stronger men the past ten years…being with teenage boys in our school setting has me alarmed at their weaknesses. Just a few weeks ago I contacted Fritos-Lay regarding the commercial where the little girl on a train hypnotizes a man with a chip & then caused him to hit his head on the window – I sm sick and tired of men being portrayed as goofy, easily berated. It is past time to start building our men up !

    1. Me too! I think we are relaying and portraying the wrong messages to our boys and to our men!

      Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving your comments. You have blessed me by doing so

  6. Mel, well done! I agree that we need to raise strong, Godly men. Our culture is lacking big time in this and it is frightening for our daughters and for the next generation. Thanks for linking at Tuesday Talk!

    1. Thanks, Michelle!

      I’m new to all of this linking stuff, but it has been fun and insightful to get out there and meet new friends. I feel like I’m drinking from a fire hydrant right now!

      Hope you have a fabulous day today!
      Blessings,
      Melanie

  7. Number 4 on the list is my favorite. I think sometimes we forget to share with them that life will have challenges and obstacles but that, through Christ, we are OVERCOMERS! ♥

    1. Isn’t that true, Michelle!

      Life is not easy or fair, and sometimes we forget to teach our kids this principle. And, you are so right, they need to hear about the power of our great God!

      Thanks for stopping by and leaving a kind comment today. I really appreciate your visit, and I enjoy making new friends. I look forward to connecting with you again soon.

      Have a great weekend,
      Melanie

  8. Great advice full of Bible-based truth! We are the proud parents of one young adult son who is a joy and blessing. Linked up with you at Raising Samuels — hope you’ll stop by Saved by Grace for a visit!
    God bless,
    Laurie.

    1. Hey Laurie,

      Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment today. I’m really glad you did!

      And, aren’t those adult sons amazing!

      I will try to stop by your site for a visit, and I look forward to more conversations in the days ahead!

      Blessings to you,
      Melanie

  9. This is such a great list! AS a parent, I wish they didn’t have to deal with #4, but I know it is in those times that we can sometimes learn the most. Thanks for sharing this week on #SocialButterflySunday! Hope you will link up again this Sunday 🙂

    1. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a kind word! I really appreciate your visit.

      And, I wish our kids didn’t have to deal with the challenges of life either. But they do. And, we do. I guess our best option is to teach them how to go through the tough days.

      Glad to find your link up. And, I plan to link up again~
      Blessings,
      Melanie

  10. So glad you shared this at Tuesday Talk. So encouraging for me to read as a mom of 2 boys (and one girl). I am going to save this to read it frequently to remind myself. Thank you!

    1. Hey Keri,

      Thank you for stopping by and leaving a kind word today. I really appreciate you stopping by.

      And, I enjoyed linking up at Tuesday Talk. I plan to be back again.

      Grateful for that you were encouraged as a parent. I know I need to be reminded to speak life and hope into my kids’ lives as well – on a regular basis!

      Blessings to you,
      Melanie

  11. What a great post and full of Godly wisdom for parents raising boys. I particularly like the last one about being leaders, strong and hard workers, so important for our boys when they become men. Thanks for sharing at Good Morning Mondays. Blessings

    1. Thank you!

      And, thanks for stopping by to leave a comment. I really appreciate your visit and your encouraging remarks about my raising boys article.

      I enjoyed linking up at Good Morning Morning, and I plan to join in again.
      Blessings to you,
      Melanie

  12. So many positive messages in this post. I love that you include the need to work in your family – whether that’s a breadwinner, child carer, both, or something else. Thanks for linking with #TwinklyTuesday.

    1. Thanks, Sadia,

      I really appreciate your stopping by and leaving a kind comment! I love visits! And, I do think we need to teach our kids to work hard – especially those sweet old boys!

      And, I enjoyed linking up today. I hope to get to connect with you again in the future~
      Blessings,
      Melanie

  13. I couldn’t agree more! I have four sons, and have seen them GLOW when they hear words of hope spoken over them. Our words do matter.
    Glad to have found your blog today!

    1. Hey Michele,

      Thanks for stopping by and leaving a kind comment today! I really appreciate your visit!

      Four boys is a LOT of boys!!

      I look forward to connecting again in days to come.

      Hope you have a blessed day-
      Melanie

  14. You are blessed to have a boy and a girl. I’m a mom of a girl who is a mom to a girl and with another one on the way. Thanks for sharing at Thursday Favorite Things! Hope to see you again this week 🙂

    1. It is fun to have a girl and a boy! They are so unique!

      Girls are fun too! You have much to look forward to with a 2nd one.

      I’m enjoying my visits on Thursday Favorites Things, and I do plan on stopping by again tomorrow~
      Blessings,
      Melanie

  15. Thanks so much for dropping by and sharing at my Grandma Ideas Sharing Time link party. I especially liked #5 — that they are to be strong, to lead, and to work hard. Such wise words. I really appreciate your participation and hope you’ll participate again!

    Nina

    1. Thanks, Nina~

      Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment today. I appreciate you and your visit!

      And, I do think we need to teach our boys to be strong and lead well!

      I’m enjoying the link up, and I hope to be back next week~
      Blessings,
      Melanie

  16. My brother is fast growing up and I always affirm him. It’s tough especially since teenage kids tend to want to feel dependent at all times.

    1. Hey Lux,

      Sounds like you are an amazing sister! Keep encouraging your brother! Your words mean much to him. I know that my son loves for my daughter to say something kind to him – he really respects her opinion.

      Thanks for stopping by and leaving a nice comment today. I appreciate you and your visit!

      Hope you have a blessed day today~
      Melanie

  17. Such a great post, I completely agree. My little man amazes me every day with his talents and I make sure to let him know. Can you tell your child that you love them too may times in a day? If so, I may need to do something about that!

  18. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to post this on the door posts of every home with a male in it? Seriously! I love #5 especially. Especially in today’s culture. Appreciate you digging this out and sharing today.

  19. Loved everything about your article.I have a boy and girl under 2.I just know that I must raise a strong man of God.Even now I tell him he will be and I pray that he becomes one.

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