Five Ways to Encourage Your Daughters & Grandaughters


She’s my daughter – my only girl, and someone had broken her heart.

She was hurting.

I was hurting.

The situation was painful.

Raising daughters in today's culture is quite a challenge... especially as they enter the teenage and young adult years. What can we say to inspire and encourage our daughters and granddaughters? Here are 5 practical, positive ideas for parents & grandparents

In those quiet moments where we just sat and cried, I began to think about what I should say to her. 

How should I advise her?

What could I do or say to make it less painful?

What did she need to hear most in that moment?

Over the next few minutes, some really sweet words of encouragement came to me as I prayed silently.

I think the Lord gave me these words. I shared them with her, and I will do so again.

(In fact, I texted these very words to her this morning!)

It’s likely you have a daughter or granddaughter who also needs to be encouraged today.

Even if they are not going through a heartache or a challenging season, these words still apply.

(I also wrote a post like this for boys. You can check it out HERE).

Here are 5 Ways to Encourage Your Daughters & Granddaughters:

1) You are LOVED

Most of our girls will face times of self-doubt and insecurity.

They will go through stages when the feel clumsy and ugly and unlovable. They will have moments when they don’t even like themselves.

They need to regularly hear these words from us:

No matter where you go, what you do, what you don’t do, or what life throws your way, we love you. Click To Tweet

“There is NOTHING you can do to change our love for you!

There is also NOTHING you can do to change God’s love for you!

Nothing can separate you from our love or from His love.”

And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love.  Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love.

No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 8:38-39)

Raising daughters in today's culture is quite a challenge... especially as they enter the teenage and young adult years. What can we say to inspire and encourage our daughters and granddaughters? Here are 5 practical, positive ideas for parents & grandparents

2) You are LOVELY!  

Our girls are torn down, compared, contrasted, nit-picked, and made to feel less than beautiful all the time.

Many of our girls struggle with doubts about their beauty, body shape, and personality.

They look at images on Social Media and feel inadequate. They look at actresses in magazines and on TV and feel inferior and less than those that they see.

They spend time with their friends and don’t feel as thin or as pretty as their friends.

They need to hear these words from us:

On the inside and on the outside, you are truly a beautiful person! Click To Tweet

“God has crafted you with such creativity, compassion, and wisdom. 

He has also blessed you with a gorgeous smile and incredible blue eyes.

You are beautiful – just the way you are.”

3) You are the LORD’s!

There will be moments when our girls will wonder how they are unique and special.

They will ask things like: What is their purpose? Does God have great plans ahead for them?

They need to regularly hear these words from us:

“God specially created you as a one of a kind.”

You are a designer’s original – the only you on this planet. Click To Tweet

“Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
    Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.” (Psalm:139:14, NLT)

“You have a wonderful LIFE ahead of you!”

“God has amazing plans for your life. You are His!”

“There will be setbacks, roadblocks, and detours, but you will make it through all of these things.” 

Raising daughters in today's culture is quite a challenge... especially as they enter the teenage and young adult years. What can we say to inspire and encourage our daughters and granddaughters? Here are 5 practical, positive ideas for parents & grandparents

4) You will always be LEARNING valuable lessons – especially in the hard moments of life

No matter how much we try to protect and shield them from it, life is going to be hard for our girls. In fact, our children may live through very challenging days.

There are no guarantees that our girls will grow up to be healthy, wealthy, and wise.

We need to speak the truth to them and let them know that life may be very hard. We also need to tell them that they can grow and learn great lessons from these hard times.

They need to regularly hear these words from us:

Some days will be challenging; every challenge brings you the chance to learn valuable lessons. Click To Tweet

“No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful!

But afterward, there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way.” (Hebrews 12:11, NLT)

“Try to enjoy the journey and don’t hurry toward the destination.”

5) Life is an adventure – meant to be savored, enjoyed, and experienced.

Try to also encourage your girls to dream, live, and explore. Life is full of great moments that they can embrace.

Our girls need to be reminded that life is a great adventure–full of opportunity.

They need to regularly hear these words from us:

“Remember – God promises to be with you every step of the way.”

 “For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5, NKJV)

“There are going to be so many great adventures ahead for you.”

“Try to enjoy them, savor them, embrace them, and live in them.”

Live your life to the fullest, enjoying these adventures He has for you. Click To Tweet

Our girls need to hear:

You are loved, lovely, and the Lord’s.

You have a wonderful life ahead of you with lessons to be learned all along the way.

(My Emily as a senior in high school).

Are there some "key" words we need to be regularly saying to our girls? Absolutely! Here are 5 awesome tips for how you can speak to your daughter - no matter how old she is!

Maybe today, you need to share these words with one or all of your girls or grand girls??

Even if she is little bitty, she’s not too young to start hearing these truths!

  • Maybe you need to text your teen girl or college girl and share these words with her?
  • Possibly you even need to call your grown “girl” and tell her these things today?

And, if you are a girl who NEVER got to hear these kinds of words spoken to you, may I bless you in this way: (or even if you did, you can listen in too)

Hear your Heavenly Father speak these words over you today:

1. You are dearly and unconditionally loved by Me!

2. You are lovely–absolutely beautiful–to Me!

3. You belong to Me! You are Mine!

4. You will ALWAYS be learning, stretching, and growing!

5. Your life is an adventure! Hang on for the ride.


(Below is a recent picture with my girl when both got new glasses!)

Raising daughters in today's culture is quite a challenge... especially as they enter the teenage and young adult years. What can we say to inspire and encourage our daughters and granddaughters? Here are 5 practical, positive ideas for parents & grandparents


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12 thoughts on “Five Ways to Encourage Your Daughters & Grandaughters

  1. Great words for ALL women! God’s Word is full of wisdom for all seasons and situations we experience in life. The Scriptures you share truly do minister hope, especially to women! What a blessing to read. Men would be wise to remember these and to pray them over their wives and daughters regularly!

  2. As I told you earlier, I started reading this & had to quit. I just read again & God spoke to me thru it this time. I know of someone who is needing some encouragement so I wrote down several scriptures to go along with what you had shared about how God loves us & the hope we have in Him. Thanks for bringing such good encouragement .

  3. Thank you for sharing these words of encouragement. Such a good reminder to lift up our daughters and granddaughters and speak words of truth to them when the world is whispering lies to their hearts so often. Today I will share these words with my daughter, and pray that I remember to always lift her up. Blessings!

    1. Hey Angela,
      Thanks for stopping by to leave a good word today!
      I really appreciate you and your visit.
      And, I know your daughter will be encouraged by your kind words to her!
      Hope you have a blessed day~
      Melanie

  4. Melanie these are awesome words of wisdom. I can honestly say I just recently told one of my grandchildren and have often told my children that they are beautiful inside and out, because one of my children told me, “You are just saying that because you are my mother.” So I emphasized, ” I would not lie to you about something like that.”

    1. Hey Betty,
      It’s so good to hear from you! I hope you and your family are doing well.
      And, it sounds like you have the chance to make a great impact on your kids and grandkids.
      I love the line you shared with your daughter! I’m going to have to use that one myself!
      I always enjoy connecting with you~
      Blessings,
      Melanie

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