Five Ways to Encourage Your Wife


I sent emails to 20 of my good friends who enjoy positive, healthy marriage relationships.

I asked them to tell me what they most loved to hear from their men.

I got back some wonderful responses!

Most men really do want to encourage their wives. But, how do they? What sorts of things do they need to say to really affirm their wives? Here are 5 very practical words men can say to the women in their lives to make them feel loved. (Free Cheat Sheet Printable included!)

However, because I know that most of you are going TO READ THIS POST OUT LOUD TO YOUR MEN… 

I have kept my comments quite short.

I am trying to help you, sisters!

Start briefly, and only expound if necessary!

(I’m not picking on any men who are reading; I’m just trying to keep your women focused on the main things)!

Here are the 5 Things Every Woman Needs to Hear:

1) Thank you/I really appreciate you!

In other words…

Women need to know that their men see and appreciate all that they do. Click To Tweet

If you feel that your husband must hear more…

  • Remind him of a time when he thanked you. Tell him how it made you FEEL.
  • Ideas other women have shared:
    • “I really appreciate all you do, even the little things that I might not mention. I notice.” (courtesy of Heather)
    • “I couldn’t do it without you.” (courtesy of Benita)
    • “Thank you for your prayers and your encouragement.” (courtesy of Benita)
    • Just “Thank you.” (courtesy of Ginger)

2) You are so good/the best at _____. (Be specific).

In other words –

Women like know that their men think they are gifted, special, and great at certain things. Click To Tweet

If you feel that your man needs more…

Remind him of a time when he told you how good you were at something.

  • Give him an example, “You are the best cook, mom, wife, partner, friend…”
  • Ideas other women have shared:
    • My husband will say, “You are so smart! I love the way your mind works.”
    • “I’m impressed by the great work you do.”  (courtesy of Benita)

3) You look beautiful/gorgeous/amazing!

In other words…

Women need to hear from their husbands that they are still gorgeous! Click To Tweet

If you feel that he needs more detail…

Explain that you want HIM to think you are more beautiful than any other woman in the world.

Ideas other women have shared:

  • “You look so pretty today.” (courtesy of Candy)
  • “That dress is gorgeous on you.” (courtesy of Kendall)

Most men really do want to encourage their wives. But, how do they? What sorts of things do they need to say to really affirm their wives? Here are 5 very practical words men can say to the women in their lives to make them feel loved. (Free Cheat Sheet Printable included!)

4) I’m WITH you, and I’m FOR us!

In other words…

Women need to hear that their men are FOR their marriage relationship. Click To Tweet

If you feel that your man needs more explanation…

Explain how good it feels when he affirms that he is sticking with you.

  • Ideas other women have shared:
    • My husband will often say, “You are stuck with me. I’m not going anywhere.”
    • “I’m on your team!” (courtesy of Beth)
    • “I will protect our family and our marriage.” (courtesy of Beth)
    • “You’re my best friend and there’s no one I’d rather spend time with than you.” (courtesy of Debbie)
    • “Let me help you with…” (courtesy of Gina)
    • “Let’s pray together.” (courtesy of Gina)

5) I love you more today than I ever have before!

  • (He will “get” this one – I am certain)!

A few honorable mentions that I couldn’t leave out (but couldn’t decide where to fit into the 5):

“I planned this special event just for you. You don’t have to do anything. Just come with me.”

“Not many women would have stayed with me.”

“With a woman like you, Satan’s usual methods don’t work.  He has to be more sophisticated to come up with a way to get to you.” 

Now, I realize that some of your men are NOT verbal!

Many men are not.

I’ve created a “Great Husband’s Encouragement Cheat Sheet” that you can print off and share.

To print… Right click. Save. Print.

Most men really do want to encourage their wives. But, how do they? What sorts of things do they need to say to really affirm their wives? Here are 5 very practical words men can say to the women in their lives to make them feel loved. (Free Cheat Sheet Printable included!)

And honestly, there is NO perfect marriage or dating relationship!

None!

Nobody has it all figured out or gets along well all of the time.

But, we can always improve.

I also wrote a post like this for wives to learn what to say to husbands. You can link HERE.

The words of Philippians 2:1-4 in The Message seem so fitting:

“If you’ve gotten anything at all out of following Christ if his love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care— then do me a favor:

Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Click To Tweet

Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top.

Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead.

Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage.

Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.”

I pray that we will all more selflessly love each other.

I pray we will all try to more regularly say the things that others in our lives need so desperately to hear!


So, what do you think?

~ Did I mention your favorite thing to hear?

~ What would you add?

I always enjoy hearing from you!

*Special thanks to everyone who shared their ideas for this post: Kelly, Ginger, Shan, Debbie, Benita, Brenda, Kendall, Beth, Candy, Tami, Gina, Heather, O.C., Amelia, and all others who shared their suggestions.


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10 thoughts on “Five Ways to Encourage Your Wife

  1. I LOVE the cheat sheet! What a great list! And yes, I love to hear every one and I’m blessed to have a man who loves to tell me. So fun, Melanie! Looking forward to sharing this all over!!

  2. This was good. I enjoyed your comment about “forget about yourself”. We are to put others above ourselves. I’m told that in so many ways–devotional, sermon, & my sweet husband. I jotted down a few notes from some of your friends. Thanks so much for all you do to help others to God.

  3. This is a great list of ways a husband can encourage his wife! I love when my husband says these kinds of things to me! Thanks for sharing on Grace and Truth.

  4. Number four is my favorite from this list. “I’m WITH you, and I’m FOR us!” is such a powerful statement! When life gets routine and mundane, it can be so easy to let our confidence in our husbands begin to slip. At least for me, I’m constantly reassured when my husband speaks truths such as this. I know these things in my heart, but my mind needs to hear them every so often to remain reassured that our marriage is growing and that we’re both fighting for it.

    1. Hey Katelin,
      Thanks so much for stopping by to leave a good word today! I’m blessed by you and by your visit.
      And, don’t you love that number 4! It’s a good one for sure!
      I think we all like to hear these words from our men!
      Praying God will encourage you today and make your marriage sweeter than ever!
      Melanie

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