There’s a stage that moms go through.
It can be when you have one baby that you care for full-time.
It can be when you have two or more little ones all under foot.
It can be when you are homeschooling your kids.
It can be when your husband travels, and you are left solely responsible many nights of the week.
It can even be when you can’t have a moment to yourself to think, take a shower, or use the bathroom.
It’s been affectionately called, “Being Smothered in Motherhood.”
I’ve been there.
My mother and my grandmothers were there.
Your mom was there.
And, perhaps today– you are there.
Just to be sure, I’ve added a little 4 picture quiz (In case you are the mom of preschoolers!)
To see if you are indeed “Smothered in Motherhood,” look over each picture to see if you can relate.
Picture One is from www.thechive.com:
Picture Two is from www.buzzfeed.com:
Picture Three is from www.mommyshorts.com:
Picture Four is from www.theberry.com:
To score yourself: If you were able to relate to any or all of the pictures above, it’s official: you are “Smothered in Motherhood.”
So, how to you deal with it?
What can you do?
I want to suggest 4 Ways to Survive Being Smothered in Motherhood:
1} RELAX & TRY TO HAVE FUN!
Take some deep breaths – literally.
Play with those babies. Enjoy time with them. Tickle them, read books with them, play games with them, laugh with them, take long walks with them, and make the most of these moments.
As much as you possibly can, enjoy this season. Believe it or not, it will be over so quickly. Those precious little people who are clinging to you non-stop will soon enough be asking you to drop them off and leave them alone.
The same is true for my homeschooling friends. Before you know it, all of your lesson planning, teaching, training, organizing, supervising, and driving kids all over the place – will be done. You will eventually work yourself out of a job!
2} SPEND TIME WITH THE LORD EVERY DAY!
Even if just for a few moments, take the time to open your Bible, pray, and acknowledge the God who adores you. You can do this while your kids are with you or even on top of you.
When my kids were little, I used to pray in the master bedroom closet. Long before there was a War Room, I prayed in the closet because it was the only quiet place in the house.
I remember many times that my kids would come in, sit with me, or sit on me while I prayed. My daughter would even pray with me when she was about 2 years old. Together, we would be in the closet having our devotions.
Your children need to see you spending time with Jesus – even if only for a few minutes. The example you are setting is incredible!
And, you NEED to spend time with Him. He can restore and refresh your spirit in just a few quiet moments in prayer and in His Word. He can fill you with the grace and the strength you need to get through one more day.
3} WHEN YOU GET THE CHANCE, TAKE A FEW MOMENTS FOR YOURSELF
You may have to get very creative, but you can find a few moments each day to breathe!
Here are a few that worked for us:
- Ask hubby to watch the kids while you take a long, hot bath or go to the store all alone.
- Trade off babysitting with another couple that has kids about the same age as yours.
- Join a Bible study that offers child care! You will love the time with adults, and your kids will enjoy being around other children.
- Sign up for Mother’s Day Out! Take advantage of a day or two out for a few hours!
- If you are homeschooling, join a group and meet other moms. Enjoy some field trips together. Trade out having kids over and sending your kids to their house.
- Pay a babysitter! It is well worth the cost to have a date night!
4} TRUST IN THE OTHER MOMS WHO’VE GONE BEFORE YOU – YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS!
You are going to make it through this time!
Right now, it may seem like never-ending days of diapers and baths and feedings and picking up toys, but they will mature. They will become less demanding and needy. You will survive this juncture!
To my homeschool friends, it may seem like you never get to have moments alone, but you will soon enough. This time will pass, and your kids will give you more and more time alone. It’s just a season, and seasons will pass!
As my children near the end of their college years, I’m more aware of how quickly time passes than I have ever been before.
23 years of raising kids have literally flown by!
And, looking back, I wish I had done more of the very things I’m encouraging you to do:
- Relax and enjoy those babies as much as you possibly can.
- Spend time daily with Jesus – in prayer and in the Bible.
- When you get the chance, take a few moments for yourself.
- Know this – you will make it through this! It’s only a season!
I heard an interview with Billy Graham talking about his life and his family. When the interviewer asked Graham if he had any regrets, he sighed and said, “I wish I’d been home more with my wife and with my children. I was gone way too much, and I missed out on too much of their lives.”
Similarly, I heard former Dallas Cowboys coach Jimmy Johnson interviewed on ESPN. He said that he left the coaching profession because he was missing too much of his family’s life. Sadly, he said, “All of my boys played football, and I never got to see any of them play in even a single game.”
Raising children is just a season.
It’s only for a short time.
You may feel smothered by it all right now, but I can promise you that this time will not last forever.
You only have these moments to pour into those little people.
Try to make the most of it!
So, what do you think?
- Can you relate?
- Are you there right now – smothered in motherhood?
- What helps you to survive?
- How can I pray for you today?
I always enjoy hearing from you!
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