How to SURVIVE Being Smothered in Motherhood

Being a mom can be a struggle. It's just plain hard at times. Here is an article filled with tips and advice on how to survive and find more joy, humor, & inspiration in your parenting.

There’s a stage that moms go through.

All moms.

It can be when you have one baby that you care for full-time.

It can be when you have two or more little ones all under foot.

It can be when you are homeschooling your kids.

It can be when your husband travels, and you are left solely responsible many nights of the week.

It can even be when you can’t have a moment to yourself to think, take a shower, or use the bathroom.

It’s been affectionately called, “Being Smothered in Motherhood.”

I’ve been there.

My mother and my grandmothers were there.

Your mom was there.

And, perhaps today– you are there. 

Just to be sure, I’ve added a little 4 picture quiz (In case you are the mom of preschoolers!)

To see if you are indeed “Smothered in Motherhood,” look over each picture to see if you can relate.

Picture One is from www.thechive.com:

Being a mom can be a struggle. It's just plain hard at times. Here is an article filled with tips and advice on how to survive and find more joy, humor, & inspiration in your parenting.

Picture Two is from www.buzzfeed.com:

Being a mom can be a struggle. It's just plain hard at times. Here is an article filled with tips and advice on how to survive and find more joy, humor, & inspiration in your parenting.

Picture Three is from www.mommyshorts.com

Being a mom can be a struggle. It's just plain hard at times. Here is an article filled with tips and advice on how to survive and find more joy, humor, & inspiration in your parenting.

Picture Four is from www.theberry.com:

Being a mom can be a struggle. It's just plain hard at times. Here is an article filled with tips and advice on how to survive and find more joy, humor, & inspiration in your parenting.

To score yourself: If you were able to relate to any or all of the pictures above, it’s official: you are “Smothered in Motherhood.”

So, how to you deal with it?

What can you do?

I want to suggest 4 Ways to Survive Being Smothered in Motherhood:

1} RELAX & TRY TO HAVE FUN!

Take some deep breaths – literally.

Being a mom can be a struggle. It's just plain hard at times. Here is an article filled with tips and advice on how to survive and find more joy, humor, & inspiration in your parenting.You won’t get everything done every day. Some days, things will just be a little messier or less organized. It doesn’t ALL have to be done right now!

Play with those babies. Enjoy time with them. Tickle them, read books with them, play games with them, laugh with them, take long walks with them, and make the most of these moments.

As much as you possibly can, enjoy this season. Believe it or not, it will be over so quickly. Those precious little people who are clinging to you non-stop will soon enough be asking you to drop them off and leave them alone.

The same is true for my homeschooling friends. Before you know it, all of your lesson planning, teaching, training, organizing, supervising, and driving kids all over the place – will be done. You will eventually work yourself out of a job!

2} SPEND TIME WITH THE LORD EVERY DAY!

Even if just for a few moments, take the time to open your Bible, pray, and acknowledge the God who adores you. You can do this while your kids are with you or even on top of you. 

When my kids were little, I used to pray in the master bedroom closet. Long before there was a War Room, I prayed in the closet because it was the only quiet place in the house.

I remember many times that my kids would come in, sit with me, or sit on me while I prayed.  My daughter would even pray with me when she was about 2 years old. Together, we would be in the closet having our devotions.

Your children need to see you spending time with Jesus – even if only for a few minutes. The example you are setting is incredible!

And, you NEED to spend time with Him. He can restore and refresh your spirit in just a few quiet moments in prayer and in His Word. He can fill you with the grace and the strength you need to get through one more day.

3} WHEN YOU GET THE CHANCE, TAKE A FEW MOMENTS FOR YOURSELF

You may have to get very creative, but you can find a few moments each day to breathe!

Here are a few that worked for us:

  • Ask hubby to watch the kids while you take a long, hot bath or go to the store all alone.Being a mom can be a struggle. It's just plain hard at times. Here is an article filled with tips and advice on how to survive and find more joy, humor, & inspiration in your parenting.
  • Trade off babysitting with another couple that has kids about the same age as yours. 
  • Join a Bible study that offers child care! You will love the time with adults, and your kids will enjoy being around other children.
  • Sign up for Mother’s Day Out! Take advantage of a day or two out for a few hours!
  • If you are homeschooling, join a group and meet other moms. Enjoy some field trips together. Trade out having kids over and sending your kids to their house.
  • Pay a babysitter! It is well worth the cost to have a date night!

4} TRUST IN THE OTHER MOMS WHO’VE GONE BEFORE YOU – YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS!

You are going to make it through this time!

Right now, it may seem like never-ending days of diapers and baths and feedings and picking up toys, but they will mature. They will become less demanding and needy. You will survive this juncture!

To my homeschool friends, it may seem like you never get to have moments alone, but you will soon enough. This time will pass, and your kids will give you more and more time alone. It’s just a season, and seasons will pass!

As my children near the end of their college years, I’m more aware of how quickly time passes than I have ever been before.

23 years of raising kids have literally flown by!

And, looking back, I wish I had done more of the very things I’m encouraging you to do:

  1. Relax and enjoy those babies as much as you possibly can.
  2. Spend time daily with Jesus – in prayer and in the Bible.
  3. When you get the chance, take a few moments for yourself.
  4. Know this – you will make it through this! It’s only a season!

I heard an interview with Billy Graham talking about his life and his family. When the interviewer asked Graham if he had any regrets, he sighed and said, “I wish I’d been home more with my wife and with my children. I was gone way too much, and I missed out on too much of their lives.”

Similarly, I heard former Dallas Cowboys coach Jimmy Johnson interviewed on ESPN. He said that he left the coaching profession because he was missing too much of his family’s life. Sadly, he said, “All of my boys played football, and I never got to see any of them play  in even a single game.”

Raising children is just a season.

It’s only for a short time.

You may feel smothered by it all right now, but I can promise you that this time will not last forever.

You only have these moments to pour into those little people.

Try to make the most of it!

So, what do you think?

  • Can you relate?
  • Are you there right now – smothered in motherhood?
  • What helps you to survive?
  • How can I pray for you today?

I always enjoy hearing from you!

**And, would you do me a favor — if this article has encouraged you today — would you share it with someone else? 

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26 thoughts on “How to SURVIVE Being Smothered in Motherhood

  1. This made me cry. Not really sure why but it certainly rings many truths. The time is really short with our children and I wish more young moms today would understand that.

    1. Hey Michelle,
      Thanks for stopping by to leave a kind word today!
      And, I almost made myself cry when I was writing this post. I thought back about how quickly time passes!
      Hoping and praying that my young mom friends will read it and be encouraged today.
      Hope you have a blessed Monday~
      Melanie

  2. I love the pictures…they remind me of those days. They went by so fast…too fast. Great wisdom in your post today! It is my prayer that young parents will take heed and enjoy the time they have with their kids and truly invest quality time with them!

  3. Oh Melanie!! Precious reminder and encouraging word! Because of one child with croup and the other with a bad cold, I saw every hour on the clock during the night last night (except for 2 a.m.;). I don’t know whether to laugh or cry!, but the pictures you shared make me laugh, and then I want to cry that these babies are already growing so much faster than I want them to grow. On the upside, they’re both taking early naps today, and I’ve found some dark chocolate in the cabinet! 😉 You are such a blessing to me. ((hugs!))

    1. Thanks, Amanda! So sorry to hear that our babies are sick. That is the worst! And, giving up sleep is a tough one!
      Praying that God will give you some rest today!
      And, they will grow so fast!!
      Glad you are getting some quiet and some chocolate!
      Love you much~
      Melanie

  4. Great advice here and the pics at the beginning . . . so much fun! Raising littles is exhausting but wonderful! Blessings to you my friend!

    1. I”m so glad that you can relate, Keri! Toddlers are the cutest and craziest of all, aren’t they!
      Praying that God will bless your home with joy, laughter, and lots of little giggles!
      You’ve blessed me with your words today~
      Melanie

  5. Oh yes, so relateable! My 2 year old thinks that she is my bathroom companion. I try to sneak in without her noticing, haha! But then I see my 5 year old becoming so independent even now and not needing help so much, that makes me sad. So I am definitely savoring the moments since I can’t have more!

    1. Don’t you love those two-year-olds! They do sort of stick like glue!
      And, then they grow independent!
      For what it’s worth… mine haven’t stopped needing me. I spent 3 hours helping her with her new class syllabi and her school supplies for the new semester!
      Praying God will fill your home with much joy, sweet moments, and lots and lots of laughter!
      Blessings,
      Melanie

  6. This is so so true Melanie! As a homeschooling mom of three sons, and with my youngest being 15, the light at the end of the tunnel has certainly arrived. I don’t regret the large amounts of time or memories I’ve shared with them. I just wish I had even more time than I did! 🙂 I love your challenge to young moms to find some time for themselves. You are so wise to encourage moms to find some moments of refreshment so they can keep on keeping on. And thanks for the laughs with the pictures! The bathroom and JOY pictures are hilarious!

    1. Thanks, Joy! And, you are starting to see the end of that tunnel, aren’t you!
      Homeschooling does allow you to spend lots of time with your kids. But, I’m with you. I wish I’d had even more time.
      I appreciate you stopping by to leave a kind word today! You have encouraged me.
      And, I pray that God will bless your time with your 15-year-old and make it really sweet.
      Blessings,
      Melanie

  7. Oh yes! We fit all four pictures 🙂 With an 18-month-old who never knows if she is crying or whining and who has decided hitting is the best policy when she doesn’t get what she wants; AND an almost 3-year-old who never knows what he wants but cries no matter what he does/gets/wants, I tell you – sometimes… But I find the moment I ask God for help, I have the strength for that moment. Thank you for the encouragement!

    1. Hey Sarah,
      Thanks for stopping by to leave a comment! It’s good to hear from you!
      And, it sounds like you are right in the midst of the “Smothered in Motherhood” season! Your kids are close in age as well. That always makes things more fun!
      I have a good friend who had her babies three years in a row. They are each a year older than the next. They are older now, but she said the beauty of the close ages was that her children never knew life without each other. The closeness in age drew them together as siblings.
      Praying that God will give you joy, strength, and sweetness in this day!
      You are doing great!
      Blessings,
      Melanie

  8. Wise words of wisdom I definitely needed to hear today. Thanks, Melanie! So glad to have you link up with #SocialButterflySunday! Hope you will join the link up again this week 🙂

    1. Thanks, Kelly! I’ll bet you do feel smothered sometimes!
      Homeschooling can do it to you!
      Praying that God will bless you and your kids today and fill your home with much joy!
      Melanie

  9. There are so many truths in what you talk about here, Melanie. I find myself smothered in motherhood on some days–where I can’t get a moment to myself and can’t seem to get break from it all. I try to relish in the chaos…because like you pointed out, time is fleeting, especially with our children. So, sometimes it’s better to just embrace the madness and be with them, than wish for a moment away from them. Thanks so much for such an inspiring to to share with us on #SHINEbloghop! We’re so happy to have you again this week 🙂

    1. Thanks, Maria!
      It is hard some days to be a good mom! You keep going, Girl! It sounds like you are doing a great job!
      As God brings you to my mind, I’m going to pray for you!
      I appreciate you stopping by to leave kind words today!
      Blessings,
      Melanie

  10. Melanie this post just put a great big smile on my face. You have managed I’m sure with a lot of humor which is always helpful. I can just picture you in the closet praying and the kids sneaking up on you. I too have grown kids and I know exactly what you’re talking about. The Lord helps us get through all these times with love in our hearts.

    1. Thanks, Mary!
      I really appreciate you stopping by today to leave a kind word today!
      And, we do look back with fondness, don’t we! Those were the days!
      Hope you and your family have a blessed weekend~
      Melanie

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