Standing in the kitchen, I was surrounded by the most precious group of ladies on a weekend retreat.
We’d had our breakfast, started to clean up, and we were lingering around a second cup of coffee.
Unexpectedly, one of the ladies asked a most fascinating question.
She asked, “How do you take conversations with friends and family to a deeper level?”
She was looking at me when she posed the question. And, being one of the senior moms in the group, I asked her to expound on her question.
Thoughtfully, she said something like:
“It seems awkward to talk about more meaningful things with other people. We can talk about the trivial, but I’d love to steer conversations into topics about the Bible, about spiritual growth, and about more significant issues.”
“How do I move the conversation toward more weighty matters without making it weird with my friends and family members?”
What a great question!
~ How can we intentionally work to have better and deeper conversations with people we already know?
~ How can we move toward meaningful dialogue and away from the trivial?
On that morning, I shared some ideas with my friend, and we had a fabulous conversation. The other ladies joined in and shared their ideas as well.
(This blog post originates from that conversation.)
Here are 5 Ways You Can Have Better and Deeper Conversations With Friends and Family:
Ask Good Questions!
To genuinely connect with friends and family members, we have to take a sincere interest in their lives. If you will ask good questions, people will talk!
For example, you might ask:
- I’ve been trying to spend more time praying for other people. Is there some way that I might pray for you?
- Do you have anything challenging that you are dealing with right now?
- What have you been reading lately? Or, what are the best books you’ve read this year?
- I really like the way that you did… Tell me a little bit about how you came to that solution? How did you think of that?
- What are you excited about right now?
Look them in the eye and really listen to what they are saying!
Don’t be thinking about how you will answer. Don’t be in a hurry to share. Don’t lecture. Don’t rush.
Proverbs 18:13 reminds us of this truth, “The one who gives an answer before he listens— that is his folly and his shame.”
It’s my joy to partner in ministry with my friend Alison at Life of Scoop today.
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