8 Proven Strategies to WIN & KEEP Their Hearts – Part 2

It’s one of my Texas husband’s favorite sayings of all time.

When he has taken in a lot of inform

ation all at one time (almost on information overload), he will say, 

“I feel like I’ve been drinking water from a fire hydrant.”

As parents, that’s how we need to live – drinking water from all of the great water fountains we can possibly find.

We need to be like giant sponges–soaking up all of the best parenting advice, guidance, instruction, and recommendations.

To win and keep the hearts of our children, we must always be at least one step ahead of them! Click To Tweet

In order to do this, we must employ Strategy Two – Always be learning!

~ Last week, we covered Strategy One – Pray, pray, pray.

~ You can read that first post HERE.

8 Proven Strategies to WIN & KEEP Their Hearts - Part 2

Today, we are going to focus on Strategy Two – “Learn, learn, learn.”

To win and keep our children’s hearts from birth until our last day on this earth, we need to gain as much great insight into our kids and how to connect with them as possible.

~ How do we do that?

~ Where do we get the best information?


I want to suggest some of the “fire hydrants” for you to drink from.

These are some of the most stellar resources that I know of, and all of us have at least some access to these resources.

ONE – Great Parenting Books.

Whether on Kindle, Nook, or in a paper version, there are some wonderful books out there for parents to read on all ages and stages of kid’s lives.

A few recommendations from our library:

  • Dare to Discipline by James Dobson
  • The Strong Willed Child by James Dobson
  • Bringing Up Boys by Dobson
  • Preparing for Adolescence: How to Survive the Coming Years of Change by Dobson
  • Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Lessons Mothers Need to Raise Extraordinary Men by Meg Meeker
  • Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker
  • Growing Kids God’s Way : Biblical Ethics for Parenting by Gary Ezzo
  • Tech Savvy Parenting by Brian Housman
  • 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman
  • The Blessing by Gary Smalley
  • Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp (suggested by Holly Brown)
  • Give them Grace by Elyse M. Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson (suggested by Holly Brown)

Some other places to find good parenting books:

  • CBD Top Selling Parenting Books HERE
  • Amazon Top Selling Christian Parenting Books HERE
  • Life way Best Selling Parenting Books HERE

I’d love to know of other books that you would like to recommend. Please share these with me in the comments section below.

TWO – Older, Wiser Friends who are (at least) a couple of steps ahead of you.

We will spend a lot more time on this resource in a few weeks.

For now, why not start looking for and praying for older couples and friends who:

  • Have great marriages…
  • Seem to have good relationships with their kids…
  • Have kids that are heading in a positive direction…
  • Have lived through the stage you are heading into…
  • Seem to really love the Lord…
  • Are active in your church…
  • Have taken a genuine interest in your life/your children’s lives…

THREE – Radio programs and Podcasts for parents.

Some shows that I have listened to/listen to and find very helpful.

There are likely many others to check out. These are just the shows that I have listened to and trust.

I’d love to know of other radio shows if have a program to recommend. You can share these with me in the comments section below.

FOUR – Great websites and blogs about parenting.

When our children were little, there were several very popular magazines for parents to read. However, online magazines, websites, and blogs have begun to take the place of these periodicals. 

You can find almost anything online for free.

I host a Pinterest Wall filled with great parenting articles. You can access that wall HERE. Click To Tweet

In addition, I would suggest these parenting blogs/sites for you to check out:

I also have a parenting section on my blog HERE and a church & kids section HERE.

Also, here are a few very popular larger sites that you might look up:

I’d love to know of other blogs or websites you might recommend. You can share these with me in the comments section below.

FIVE – Your local church.

If you are not in a church, I would suggest that you locate the website of a large church nearby and see what sorts of programs they offer for parents.

Many churches offer:

  • MOPS – Mothers of Preschoolers 
  • MOMS in Touch – Moms who meet weekly to pray for their children
  • Parenting Classes – often these are free
  • Parenting Teens Classes – sometimes offered through the youth department
  • Other great programs for expectant parents, marriage, and more
We got more great information as young parents at our church than almost anywhere else. Click To Tweet

Friends helped us, suggested books, prayed with us, and offered us wisdom and insight in better dealing with our children.

To win and keep those kid’s hearts – Strategy Two is simple:

Learn, learn, learn!


Proverbs 23:12 instructs us to do this, 

“Give yourselves to disciplined instruction; open your ears to tested knowledge.”

8 Proven Strategies to WIN & KEEP Their Hearts - Part 2

Soak up wisdom like a giant sponge!

Never stop listening, looking, trying, and taking in info that will make you a wonderful parent. Click To Tweet

Lift the cap off of the “fire hydrant” and drink much!


So, what do you think?

~ What are you learning as a parent right now?

~ Where do you like to “drink” and fill up on good parenting advice?

~ Where are your best “fire hydrants?”


I always enjoy hearing from you!



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23 thoughts on “8 Proven Strategies to WIN & KEEP Their Hearts – Part 2

  1. Melanie, such great advice, wisdom, and list of resources!! May many moms and dads profit from this outstanding information!

  2. All these suggestions are great resources. I’ve read many of those books throughout the years. Number two was always my lifeline when we were a young family. This will surely encourage many.

  3. Thank you! To have had these resources when my sons were small would have been a blessing. Thanks for sharing Melanie. Susan

  4. Great tips! I will have to add Meg Meeker to my resource list!! She is one resource I am not familiar with! Looking forward to next week!

    1. Thanks, Lori!

      I appreciate you stopping by and leaving a good word today.

      And, I think you’ll like Meg. She’s a doctor and a wonderful communicator!

      Hope you have a blessed day today~

  5. Melanie, this is great! I love that 4 of my best online friends are included in your recommendations too 🙂 As a coordinator for a MOPS group, I love that resource for support and encouragement too! I’ll be featuring this post on Friday for our next round of Grace & Truth! Thanks for linking it up with us!!

    1. Thanks, Holly!

      You are surrounded by some wonderful friends! And, I’d love to add your link as well. If you will send me your parenting link or a link to one of your parenting posts, I’d love to add it!

      And, I am really encouraged that you are featuring my post on Grace and Truth. I love the link up, and am blessed by the gesture~

      Hope you have a wonderful day~

  6. Oh, I also wanted to suggest Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp and Give them Grace by Elyse M. Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson. FANTASTIC BOOKS! 😉

  7. Melanie, this post is a wealth of information- thank you! I have read and enjoyed so many of those books and blogs (thank you for including my name!). Years ago, when my daughter was born, I remember that I compared my teaching job, and the need for continuing education in that field, with my new job as mom. I realized that I could approach being a mother the same way, with continuing education being a part of my job. It was an intentional choice that really helped make that transition easier. Thinking of myself as a “professional” even though I didn’t get paid, was a confidence booster.

    1. Hey Dawn,

      Thank you for your kind comments today! And, thanks for offering so many great resources for parents. I was grateful to have friends like you that I could refer!

      And, I’m a teacher too! I knew there was something about you that I really connected with!! And, I do think that our teacher training helped with child-rearing and added a great boost of confidence.

      Hope you have a wonderful weekend~

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