Being a Good Parent to Your Kids!


As a parent, you juggle tasks, schedules, relationships, and there’s an endless list of things to do. Being a good parent to your kids is challenging! #parenting #beingagoodparent #goodparenting #kids

That very thing you dread as a first-time parent—it happened to me.

I was 8.5 months pregnant and my water broke in public. But not just anywhere—it happened at a wedding.

Learning how to be a good parent—it kind of feels like that. You feel like you’re prepared but there’s always something that catches you by surprise. As the years pass by, you end up relying on the “you’ll figure it out” parenting method.

The “You’ll Figure It Out” Parenting Method

We’ve all heard it said and we’ve probably said it ourselves at one time or another; “Oh! Don’t worry, you’ll figure it out.”

As a parent, you juggle tasks, schedules, relationships, and there’s an endless list of things to do. Being a good parent to your kids is challenging! #parenting #beingagoodparent #goodparenting #kids

Being a Good Parent to Your Kids!

On the surface, this parenting mantra has some truth to it and is comforting. But the problem is, that while we’re leaning heavily on “we’ll just figure it out” we inevitably let life just happen. Meanwhile, the things we value and desire for our children, family, and ourselves gets lost somewhere along the way.  

Maybe that’s you?

You woke up this morning and wondered, “Where did time go?”

Perhaps, you had dreams and things you wanted for your kids to have or know before they left “the nest” so to speak.

You had dreams and things you wanted for your kids to have or know before they left the nest so to speak. Click To Tweet

I assure you, it’s never too late to start, even if your kids are now adults. There is a way to be a good parent using everything that you already have. You just need to know what to do. (p.s. I’ll be referring specifically to moms in the rest of the post, but it applies to dads too!)

How To Be a Good Parent to Your Kids

To begin with, there’s a common mistake that moms make every day in their parenting—they neglect to do what they love.

As a mom, you juggle tasks, schedules, relationships, activities, and there’s an endless list of things to do. Meanwhile, the very thing that gives you energy for the day, confidence, and excitement for life is left last or completely off your must-do list.

As a matter of fact, it’s really easy to let life happen—let our kids’ schedules dictate our lives in the day today. But good parenting doesn’t just happen.

Additionally, Scripture actually is pretty clear that “Without a plan, the nations crumble”—and the same is true for your sweet mom (Proverbs 11;14).

Without a plan, you will have a tendency to get overwhelmed, stressed, burned out as a mom and feel like you’re losing yourself in the process.

Without a plan, you will have a tendency to get overwhelmed, stressed, burned out as a mom and feel like you’re losing yourself in the process. Click To Tweet

As much as it’s reasonable to feel and act this way, there is so much to consider—and to be honest it takes time to have a plan.

So, how do you make a plan without overwhelming yourself in the process? It’s simple really. All you have to do is use the RIGHT plan.

As a parent, you juggle tasks, schedules, relationships, and there’s an endless list of things to do. Being a good parent to your kids is challenging! #parenting #beingagoodparent #goodparenting #kids

What is the RIGHT plan for being a good parent to your child?

Truly, the RIGHT plan gives you a solid biblical foundation for your life and home. It’s building your life on the rock, not the sand like the foolish man as mentioned in Mathew 7:24–27.

Also, the right foundation begins with seeking God first and being intentional to take care of yourself—so that you can love and care for your family. Believe me, your kids and husband will take notice. 

Here is the basic overview of the simple easy-to-remember acronym for the RIGHT plan:

R – Relationship with God that is growing daily.

I – In control of your thoughts

G – Get inspired for life (dream it)

H – Happen to live (plan it, live it)

T – Thrive on the phrase, “This too shall pass”.

The alternative to the RIGHT plan is…you end up feeling like life is running you and to be honest—it is.

Now that we’ve talked about the RIGHT plan, now what?

The alternative to the RIGHT plan is…you end up feeling like life is running you and to be honest—it is. Click To Tweet

Model and teach your kids how to do the same—the RIGHT plan. 

Even before I became a mom, I had several mentors, seasoned Christian mothers, who used the RIGHT plan as their firm biblical foundation for life and parenting. Using the RIGHT plan as their starting point for everything they do, they naturally began teaching biblical principles in practical ways to their children—and me.

Like it says in Deuteronomy 6:6-9, these are the things we should be teaching our kids every day—when we wake up, sit down, and walk by the road. 

Not quite sure what I mean?

Here are a few practical ways you can model the RIGHT plan as you are being a good parent to your kids.

First… Initiate courage and bravery in your children.

As a parent, you juggle tasks, schedules, relationships, and there’s an endless list of things to do. Being a good parent to your kids is challenging! #parenting #beingagoodparent #goodparenting #kids

Second… This can be in every day and in the big stuff—like trying something new or helping them to see they can do something!

In addition, help your child see that they are made in the image of God—He is the One who created them with purpose and intentionality.

This helps kids practice being in control of their self-identity and self–talk as God sees them, not the world. (This is the I in the RIGHT plan.)

Help your child see that they are made in the image of God—He is the One who created them with purpose and intentionality. Click To Tweet

Third… Help your kids see and enjoy things that they love.

Also, help your children by noticing the ways that your kids are naturally gifted by God.

Further, encourage them to do those things on a regular basis. (This is a combination of the G – get inspired and the H – happen to live in the RIGHT plan.)

Help your children by noticing the ways that your kids are naturally gifted by God. Click To Tweet

Fourth… Enjoy time together and time apart from one another.

You aren’t the perfect parent or perfect mom—and you shouldn’t have to be, to be The Best Mom.

Yet, you are good at a lot of things—lean on those other mom friends who are great at doing something that you might not be so great at.  (This is a combination of I – in control of your thoughts, the G – get inspired, and the H – happen to live in the RIGHT plan.)

For example, I am not really fun mom when it comes to taking my son to parades and kids expos—but my friend Vanessa is awesome at it!

This past summer Vanessa took my son to our local kid’s expo and he loved it! I was able to do a couple other things and my friend was able to shine at one of the things she does best.

Using the RIGHT Plan Doesn’t Mean Parenting Is Easy

Being a good parent to your child—still means it will be challenging. Sometimes the best advice is to continue to persevere in all circumstances (This is the T in the RIGHT plan).

For example, Gloria was a great mom, friend, and mentor, to me. Daily she modeled the RIGHT plan in her life. She sought to grow her relationship with God and she fiercely battled her thoughts with scripture while pursuing a positive outlook on life.

Often I would hear her say the phrase, “What’s the worst that can happen?”

The Rebellion and Being a Friend to Her Daughter

One of Gloria’s daughters, Rebekah, really rebelled in her teenage years. Indeed, she got pregnant, had a miscarriage and then continued to live a life that she felt was true to herself. Although her life definitely was immersed in choices that were not good.

During these years, Gloria’s relationship with her daughter was tense and quite a challenge. Yet, she persisted.

At age 23, Rebekah decided it was time for her to start following the RIGHT plan also. All along she had watched her parents—and she decided, if it was good enough for them, it was going to be good for her too.

The Good Parent Learns During the Challenging Times

Rebekah made her own decisions and her parents lovingly held her responsible for those choices. Part of their RIGHT plan for Rebekah was for her to be a godly responsible adult. However, they chose to use those challenging times as a time to learn—not to consider it a parenting failure. (This is the I part of the RIGHT plan).

One thing Rebekah has said regarding those early rebellious years is that she was grateful her parents were truthful and yet still loving by holding her responsible for her choices.

God’s Promise That You Are a Good Parent to Your Child

Being a good parent is being confident that God chose you to be a parent and He has given you everything you need to be a good parent to your children.

So let me leave you with this closing promise from the best parenting resource we all have at our fingertips—the Bible.

“For His divine power has bestowed on us [absolutely] everything necessary for [a dynamic spiritual] life and godliness, through true and personal knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and excellence.”

2 Peter 1:3 (AMP)

Did anything new come to your mind as you read this post? I’d love for you to share in the comments some ways that you’ve been inspired to be a good parent to your child.

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About the Author:

Sonya Rottman, the creator of the SimplyOne Bible Study Method and founder of healthylivingmom.com.

She has served in various ministries and has written multiple bible studies over the past 18 years.

In addition, Sonya has a love for mentoring women into a deeper relationship with Jesus. She has been married to her husband Joel for 6 years and they have a sweet boy named Sebastian who is 4 years old.


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2 thoughts on “Being a Good Parent to Your Kids!

    1. Thank you, Melanie, for the opportunity! It is an honor to share what I’ve learned from seasoned Christian moms. It has made such a difference in my life and I know that others can crush that overwhelm with confidence using these practical tips!

      Sonya 🙂

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