Do you ever get caught in the comparison trap?
Each one should test his own actions. Then he can take pride in himself, without comparing himself to somebody else. For each one should carry his own load.
We live in a competitive world where we are accustomed to being judged by others.
In school, we are given tests to judge how much we have learned. As children, our parents reward or punish us based on their judgment of our actions.
In our jobs, our work is evaluated, and in a good company, we are compensated fairly for our accomplishments.
This type of environment can cause us to be constantly judging ourselves.
It’s not a bad thing to evaluate ourselves and our actions (especially in comparison to God’s expectations).It’s not a bad thing to evaluate ourselves and our actions (especially in comparison to God’s expectations). Click To Tweet
However, we have a tendency to take one of two extremes:
Either we see only our bad side (and overlook our good qualities and consider ourselves inferior). Or we see only our good side and overlook our faults. This causes us to think more highly of ourselves than we should).
Our self-esteem often rises and falls based on our comparisons with others.
When we feel superior, it feeds our ego and raises our self-esteem.
But, when feel inferior, our self-esteem is damaged.
Some people don’t think they are “good enough” if they aren’t at least on par with another specific person. They spend their entire life trying to “match up” with someone else. Instead of being happy with the person God created them to be.
This is probably why God inspired Paul to tell the Galatians (and us) that He judges us on our own actions, and not how they compare to the actions of others.
When we focus on our own actions (without comparing ourselves to others), we can rejoice over how well we have done, rather than enjoying how poorly someone else has done.
One of the typical methods people use to ‘build themselves up’ is to ‘put others down.’ This often leads to gossip, lying, and an overall poor relationship with others.
When our life is based on how we compare with others, it can have a devastating impact on us. If we cannot find anyone who seems inferior to us, we have trouble.
Rather, we are influenced by a world that encourages us to constantly compare ourselves to other.
Instead, as Christians, we should consider God as our measuring stick.As Christians, we should consider God as our measuring stick. Click To Tweet
As a result, we will discover that our self-esteem is much healthier. When our thoughts, words, actions, and even our work ethics please the Lord, rather than how we compare to those around us.
When we consider another person’s relationship with the Lord, we can only see what is on the surface (the things they want us to see).
We have no idea of their inner thoughts, or if His Spirit is alive in their hearts.
Conversely, they have no idea of what is going on ‘behind the curtains’ in our lives.
Have you been spending too much time comparing yourself to others, and possibly a specific person?
Most people are going to conceal their faults as much as possible, so any comparisons you make will be unfair and unbalanced anyway.
Take to heart God’s message through Paul and learn to be pleased or disappointed with your own actions, without comparing them to others.
When your actions please the Lord, they will please you as well, regardless of how they compare with those around you.When your actions please the Lord, they will please you as well, regardless of how they compare with those around you. Click To Tweet
“Heavenly Father, thank You for reminding me that my ultimate goal is to please You. Help me not to compare myself to others. Help me to restructure my thinking so that I will have a greater concern about my relationship with You. Teach me to be pleased with the way You made me and not how I compare with others.”
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Don has been teaching Bible classes for over 36 years and a Cristian blogger for the last 5 years.
He has been married to Debbie for 48 years and has two children and five grandchildren (another one due this year). He is overwhelmed and humbled daily by the Lord’s presence.
You can check out Don’s blog at https://utvolwoody.wordpress.com/
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Do you ever get caught in the comparison trap?