Our children might not admit it, but they do rely on us as the parent to have the greatest influence in their lives.
Whether your child is 4 years old or 14, inside of them they are screaming out for that attention, direction, influence, and relationship with you to help steer the course of their life.
With the demands our culture presents to us and our children, it can be so easy to just keep a few steps away from our children and let everyone else influence them. Sunday school, that’s where they can get their ‘spiritual education’.
Sending them to school, that’s where they can get their ‘needed education’. Signing them up for sports and clubs, that’s where they can get the experience in extracurricular activities and have even more interaction with their peers.
More Effective Parenting in a Noisy World
Where do we, as the parents, come into the picture of our children’s lives other than driving them from place to place and activity to activity?
In living this busy and noisy lifestyle that our culture presents to us, it can be easy to not be intentional with the actual relationship and influence, that we as the parents, can have on our child’s life.
So, how can have a more effective impact on our children’s lives? How can we do more effective parenting in a noisy world?
First… To do more effective parenting, we can seek out an intentional relationship with them.
“Teach children how they should live, and they will remember it all their life.”
Proverbs 22:6 (GNTD)
This can be challenging with those parents who have a handful of children involved in multiple sports, schools, and church events. But as parents, we cannot bypass the fact that each child needs our own personal love and attention. We need to make our relationship with each child a priority. It needs to override all the discipline, all the events, and all the demands the family is involved in.
Don’t allow work, business, church, school, or sports be the top priority in your family’s lives. The children need to see that you do value each one of them over all the activities you attend on a daily or weekly basis. This can lead you to have an incredible influence on your children’s lives.The children need to see that you do value each one of them over all the activities you attend on a daily or weekly basis. Click To Tweet
Second… To do more effective parenting, we can really work at supporting them.
“Parents, do not irritate your children, or they will become discouraged.”
Colossians 3:21 (GNTD)
One thing as parents, it can be so easy to think our children should walk down a certain path. Hoping they follow our exact footsteps. Or, the opposite, hoping they accomplish something we’ve always desired to accomplish ourselves. Some of us think our children should be involved in the sport or play that specific instrument that we as the parents were so passionate about while growing up.
We can encourage them in that direction, which could be ok at times. However, as the parent, be open to what your child truly desires to pursue.
Be sensitive to their giftings and the desires of their hearts so you can support and help direct them into that direction. Walking this out could, again, cause you to have one of the greatest influences on each of your children.Be sensitive to their giftings and the desires of their hearts so you can support and help direct them into that direction. Click To Tweet
Third… To do more effective parenting, we can walk out what is preached.
“First take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”
Matthew 7:5 (NIV)
Are we being the example to our children that we should be? Are we walking out in our own lives what we are talking about and preaching to our own children? In every area of our lives are we being an example to them?
We want our children to keep learning and growing. But what are we demonstrating to them? We want our children to read on a daily basis. So, are we as the parents learning, growing, and reading on a daily basis as well?
Complaining, grumbling, and whining in the home can be preached at as wrong. But do we monitor our own language? Do we complain, grumble, or gossip ourselves to our spouse, mom, close friends (or even on social media)?
I know we will never be perfect parents. But rather than preaching to our children how they should live, one of the greatest impacts we can have on our children is by setting that example with our own lives.But rather than preaching to our children how they should live, one of the greatest impacts we can have on our children is by setting that example with our own lives. Click To Tweet
Fourth… To do more effective parenting, we can pray for them.
“The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”
James 5:16 (NIV)
This is the greatest influence we can have on our children’s lives! Pray for them EVERY SINGLE DAY.
Pray for them:
– to remain pure while growing up.
– to seek Jesus all the days of their lives.
– that they stand up for what’s right, no matter what.
– to hear and discern the voice of the Lord daily.
– to walk out confidently the calling He has for each of them.
Have your children pray and declare truths over themselves.
“From the fruit of their mouth a person’s stomach is filled; with the harvest of their
lips, they are satisfied. The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”
Proverbs 18:20-21 (NIV)
Having children speak the truth over themselves is a powerful tool that could affect eternity and the course of their life.
I would encourage you to create a list of truths you want each child to believe and speak over themselves daily. Have your child say these declarations every night before bed or each morning while at the breakfast table.
If you need examples or would like an already created list that you can print out, I created a set for each gender. Hop on over to the girl’s prayers or the boy’s prayers to get access for the free printable.
We can have the greatest impact on our children’s lives rather than just the school, church, friends, or teachers in their lives. No matter how many children you have or how busy you are, you can still be intentional in each child’s life RIGHT NOW. So, as the parent, let’s take steps to pursue our children.
Let’s be that example to them and recognize the power our words, prayers, and actions have towards each of our children.We can have the greatest impact on our children’s lives rather than just the school, church, friends, or teachers in their lives. Click To Tweet
About the Author:
Denise Renae is a stay at home mom to a handful of little children and married to her best friend. She has a love for the outdoors, particularly hunting!
But what she is most passionate about is seeing growth within herself and others through this journey of marriage and motherhood. While being REAL in her journey, she is constantly striving for perfection within her imperfections.
Join her on her blog at DeniseRenae.com.
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