When You Get Weary of Serving


David had been reluctant to serve the other Sunday school kids.

I asked him why but he murmured under his voice, “They won’t say thank you”.

Then, I just smiled at him…

He was expecting me to lash out at the smaller kids. But I simply responded with a smile.

That puzzled him more. He couldn’t understand why I was smiling.

Trust me, on other days, my reaction would have been different but this time, I even surprised myself.

What David didn’t know was that I was in those same shoes!

God was working in my heart. He was using David’s reaction to instruct me as well.

Now you see why I was smiling!

I was upset because I received an ill-treatment from people I had helped recently.

Who wouldn’t be?

Secretly, I had started to withdraw from service and rendering a helping hand.

The Lord saw through my anger and withdrawals.

Additionally, He saw the foolishness of my decision and needed to open my eyes to see what I was missing.

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We always expect people to return our kindness with kind words of appreciation, but this expectation is the cause of our disappointment when people fail us.

But this question changed my heart.

Why do you do it, anyway?

As I recollect those thoughts, I smiled even more and asked David the same question…

“Because I love God,” he responded.

That’s it, David. That’s the whole point of service.

We don’t do it for people because of time and again they would fail us.

  • We are always distracted by the need for appraisal
  • And, we are entangled in the honor men give us
  • We wait eagerly to have someone commend us for the work we have done

When it doesn’t come, we get frustrated and want to stop our service altogether.

Like my Sunday School kid, David, I failed to realize the whole point of our service.

“We should do all we do because we love God”

For do I now persuade men or God? or do I seek to please men? for if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ.

Galatians 1:10

Maybe you are upset, about not receiving a “Thank you” for your kind gesture.

Or you are upset that your kindness had gone unnoticed.

I am quick to remind you of this scripture:

And let us not be weary in well-doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.

Galatians 6:9

Bottom Line:

In this season, don’t take out the whole point of the season.

The whole point of the season is to serve others with love. With this same love, Christ has showered upon us and made us His children.

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It is the Love we have for the Lord that makes us continue even when we don’t get appreciated.

And, it is the love we have for the Lord that allows us to share the gospel through our kindness and good works.

There are important lessons to remember when next you want to give up on doing good

7 Powerful Lessons to Remember When You get Weary of Serving:

Do you ever get really tired? Exhausted in and of the work? Christmastime can especially wear us out! Today's article offers wonderful words of hope - soothing words of affirmation to tired souls.1} You may not get a kind gesture in return.

Got you! I know this is sad even Jesus had experienced the same thing. He healed the 10 lepers and only one returned to say thanks (Luke 17:17).

2} God’s Commendation is worth more.

Whether or not you receive a thank you, God’s commendation is more important than any “thank you,” people say to you.

For not he that commendeth himself is approved, but whom the Lord commendeth.

2 Corinthians 10:18

3} Service requires you bend over in humility.

Every time you bend over in service, you learn humility.

It takes a humble heart to serve others. Even though you are despised, humility is what makes you do it over and again. Like Moses, several times his patience was tested yet He remained meek (Numbers 12:3)

4} Service is hard and Jesus knows that.

That is the reason if we must be the greatest in God’s kingdom we can only do so by serving others (Matthew 23:11)

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5} Service requires hard work and God knows we can easily get tired.

But He encourages us to continue and not faint (Galatians 6:9)

6} Patience is a virtue you require in the place of service.

Service is hard and many times people or situations will push you over the edge.

7} You are learning to give more grace rather than criticism in the place of service.

The more you serve the more you drown yourself in God’s grace and are able to give that same grace to others

Let me draw our attention to the whole point of our serving others.

It is because ‘We love God’ we do everything for His glory alone.

As we go on in this season, let us not forget the whole point of our service, “Because We Love the Lord

~ Now your turn friend, have you felt like giving up on your service recently?

~ What lessons have you learned in the place of service?

By His Great Grace,

Ifeoma Samuel

What a great and convicting reminder about service, Ifeoma. We serve to please One – our God. We serve at His pleasure and for His glory. Thank you for such a wonderful message as we enter one of the busiest weeks of the year. May we serve others this next week because we love God. Thanks so much for your message today.

You can connect with Ifeoma by visiting her website HERE.

Ifeoma Samuel:

  • Do you ever get really tired? Exhausted in and of the work? Christmastime can especially wear us out! Today's article offers wonderful words of hope - soothing words of affirmation to tired souls.I am by God’s grace totally, a daughter, a granddaughter, a wife, a mother, a sister, a friend, an in-law, colleague, who loves God passionately.
  • It is incredible how God uses ordinary everyday life experiences to teach us about His immense love for us and draw us closer to Him.
  • And that’s what I write about mostly.
    I share articles that point you back to the story-giver, Jesus and encourage you in your faith walk. Let’s do this together!
  • Among my numerous favorite things, I enjoy being a Sunday school teacher, I enjoy writing, reading, speaking and playing chess when I am less busy.

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32 thoughts on “When You Get Weary of Serving

  1. Thank you Melanie for inviting Ifeoma to share here. Yes, people are at times a thankless bunch. It is good to remember who we are really serving, and that Jesus said a cup of cold water offered in his name is as if we were offering it unto Him. Yes we also get weary in long term situations and our health may becomes a challenge, but God our strength. Thank you for also sharing this at Tell me a Story.

    1. Thank you, Hazel, for stopping by to leave such kind comments for Ifeoma and for me!

      And, you are so right – when we serve, we are really serving our Savior!

      You are a blessing!
      Merry Christmas~

  2. So good, Ifeoma! I love what God teaches me through little children. Excellent points to ponder about serving even when we don’t get the recognition we desire in the flesh. Blessings!

    1. Oh Liz, it is always good to place our hearts in the right place.
      Thank you for adding your thoughts here.
      Many Blessings to you, Liz

    1. I agree with you, Susannah. When we open our hearts we can really learn much more.
      Many Blessings to you

  3. It is because ‘We love God’ we do everything for His glory alone. Yes, yes, yes! A great reminder, Ifeoma.

  4. More than once I have had to deflect a baffled “Why do you do that?!” (as others wondered at my service to the ungrateful) with a “Its not for them its for HIM!” (Unfortunately more often I have whined “Do I HAVE to do that?!” to which God replies, “Its not for them its for me.”)

    1. Oh Helene, I am touched by your words they reflect your heart of service.
      Thank you for sharing your thoughts here.
      I appreciate it.
      Hugs and Blessings to you

  5. As always, Ifeoma, your words touch my heart and speak blessings in multitude, not to mention, confirm things that I, too, wrestle with. Service can be hard when it feels like it doesn’t matter. Just this morning i read from John Piper’s Advent devotional, The Dawning of Indestructible Joy, about the verse in Mark 10:44 and the importance of service to God. This stuck with me, ” …the path of obedience is the place where Christ meets us as our servant to carry our burdens and give us His power.”, and in essence, like you said, our service is for Him alone. But we don’t do it alone. When we obey, He comes in and makes the burden light, and less lonely. We don’t need the accolades because it is for His glory and not our own.
    Oh, His grace is abounding when I am lacking, and thank you for sharing a truth that we need to read.
    Bless your servant heart! 🙂

    1. Hi Dawn, not only did your reflection shed more light to what our service looks like but I learnt a great deal from the John Piper devotion.
      Thank Dawn, I enjoy not reading your responses alone but reading your own posts too!
      There is a lot we learn from each other and i don’t take it for granted.
      Thank you for your encouragement.
      God Bless

  6. What a great reminder. All we do should have the right motivation and come from a heart filled with God’s love for us. Joining you from #3dlessonsforlfe

    1. Thank you Pam for laying emphasis on the right motivation.
      I appreciate your visit..
      Many Blessings to you

  7. This is a good reminder. I went through a period of “compassion fatigue” after hosting extra kids for 3 months.

    1. I totally have been there!

      I burst out in laughter ‘Compassion fatigue’.

      Be encouraged, friend. Thank you for sharing your moments with us.

      Hugs and God Bless.

  8. Thank you for this reminder! I recently read an article (I wish I could remember where) about giving presents and expecting a thank you note in return. Especially at this time of year, receiving a thank you note, while appreciated, isn’t the point of giving a gift! Serving others, whether with our time, talents, or financial gifts, should be done humbly from the bottom of our hearts.

  9. Great exhortation today! Reminds me of a quote, “What on earth are you doing for Heaven’s sake.” Putting the emphasis on ‘Heaven’s sake’ is key! Thanks for the reminder!

    1. Hey Mr. Redd! I always asked my Sunday School Kids ‘What will Jesus Do?’. It is harder doing what He will do as we get older. Somehow we feel used by others but constantly directing our thoughts on what God will have us do is the encouragement we need.

      Thank you Mr. Redd for contributing fervently on your wife’s blog. I am so sure she is proud of you. Your encouragement goes a very long way.

      God Bless, Randy

  10. Ifeoma, your wonderful lesson reminded me of Jesus speaking to Peter, “Do you love Me?” He asked. Not. “do you love the sheep?” We’re commanded to love them, but we love in actions because we love the good Shepherd. Great post.

    1. Coincidentally, I studied this yesterday, Deb. Smiled reading your reflection.
      Thank you for your encouragement here.
      God Bless Deb

  11. My husband and I run the young adults ministry in our church and there are many times that i feel like throwing int he towel because of the ungratefulness we get or the complaining because we didn’t choose someone’s activity for the month. It is easy to grow weary but you are right we need to give them grace and remember why we serve and that it has a purpose!

    Great reminders, friend!

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