5 Positive Things Women Love to Hear (from their men)
What is it that women love to hear from the men in their lives?
What can men say that will make their girlfriends and wives feel loved and appreciated?
Are there some phrases or words that women enjoy hearing most?
Are there some phrases or words that women enjoy hearing most? Share on X
5 Positive Things Women Love to Hear
For this post, I sent emails to many of my good friends who enjoy positive, healthy marriage relationships.
Next, I asked them to tell me what they most loved to hear from their men.
Then, I got back some wonderful responses detailing what women truly love to hear.
Here are 5 Positive Things Women Love to Hear (from their men):
1) Thank you/I really appreciate you!
Women need to know that their men see and appreciate all that they do. Share on X
Ideas other women have shared:
- “I appreciate all you do, even the little things that I might not mention. I notice.”
- “Honey, I couldn’t do it without you.”
- “Thank you for your prayers and your encouragement.”
- Just “Thank you.”
2) You are so good/the best at _____. (Be specific).
Women like to know that their men think they are gifted, special, and great at certain things. Share on X
Ideas other women have shared:
- “You are so smart! I love the way your mind works.”
- “I’m impressed by the great work you do.”
- “You have a glowing smile!”
3) You look beautiful/gorgeous/amazing!
Women need to hear from their husbands that they are still gorgeous! Share on X
Ideas other women have shared:
- “You look so pretty today.”
- “That dress is gorgeous on you.”
4) I’m WITH you, and I’m FOR us!
Women need to hear that their men are FOR their marriage relationship. Share on X
Ideas other women have shared:
- “You are stuck with me. I’m not going anywhere.”
- “I’m on your team!”
- “I will protect our family and our marriage.”
- “You’re my best friend and there’s no one I’d rather spend time with than you.”
- “Let me help you with…”
- “Let’s pray together.”
5) I love you more today than I ever have before!
A few honorable mentions that I couldn’t leave out:
“I planned this special event just for you. You don’t have to do anything. Just come with me.”
“Not many women would have stayed with me.”
“With a woman like you, Satan’s usual methods don’t work. He has to be more sophisticated to come up with a way to get to you.”
Now, I realize that some of your men are NOT verbal!
Many men are not.
Mine is not.
But, can I brag on my man for a minute?
Randy and I married over 28 years ago.
When we first were dating and in the early days of our marriage, he didn’t express his feelings too often verbally.
He was more of a servant and a hugger. In other words, he expressed his love best with actions and with physical affection.
However, I need to HEAR love expressed in words.
Maybe you do as well?
In those early days, our differences created some challenges.
Yet, we learned to communicate better by reading a book called The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. I highly recommend this book!
This is what we learned to do (and now do without thinking):
When I was feeling down, Randy would reach to hug me or pat my shoulder.
I learned to say, “I need words, Honey.”
When Randy was having a hard day, I would try to use my words to encourage him.
He would quietly say, “I just need a hug.”
Today, my husband is now much more effective at expressing his words of affirmation, and I am a much-improved hugger!
And honestly, there is NO perfect marriage or dating relationship!
And honestly, there is NO perfect marriage or dating relationship! Share on X
None!
Furthermore, nobody has it all figured out or gets along well all of the time.
But, we can always improve.
Furthermore, nobody has it all figured out or gets along well all of the time. But, we can always improve. Share on X
I also wrote a post like this for wives to learn what to say to their husbands.
You may want to check it out. It’s called, “5 Important Things Every Man Loves to Hear.“
Indeed, the words of Philippians 2:1-4 in The Message seem so fitting:
“If you’ve gotten anything at all out of following Christ if his love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart if you care— then do me a favor:
Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Share on X
Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top.
Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead.
Don’t be obsessed with getting your advantage.
Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.”
So, what do you think?
Did I mention your favorite thing to hear?
What would you add?
Moreover, I always enjoy hearing from you!
*Special thanks to everyone who shared their ideas for this post: Kelly, Ginger, Shan, Debbie, Benita, Brenda, Kendall, Beth, Candy, Tami, Gina, Heather, O.C., Amelia, and all others who shared their suggestions.
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36 Comments
Krysten · 07/10/2024 at 1:33 PM
Our pastor had us read The 5 Love Languages as part of our pre-marital counseling. I really think that book helped us to start our marriage on the right foot. It gave us knowledge in the beginning about each other that may have taken years to figure out on our own.
Denise Renae · 02/09/2019 at 10:49 AM
I always feel very valued when my husband recognizes extra work I did or compliments me on something.
helloredds@gmail.com · 02/10/2019 at 11:20 AM
Amen, Denise!
Me too!
I love my man’s compliments!
Hope you have a blessed day~
Melanie
Diana · 02/04/2019 at 9:14 AM
My husband is man of few words, and more of a man of great actions. I am just like you who loves to hear words. I was just visualizing all the women printing this out and posting it on the doorposts for their husbands to read (wink wink)
Love you friend
helloredds@gmail.com · 02/07/2019 at 11:02 AM
Yes, Diana.
I get that!
And, he can improve over time. Mine is getting better every day.
Praying that God will greatly bless you and your marriage!.
Love you,
Melanie
Nate · 03/03/2016 at 3:34 PM
My wife and I have been married almost 40 years. I too am a man of few words. My wife has had cancer issues for the last three years, and has 6 months to a year to live. So I sat down and wrote her, about a dream I had. It was when we first met. I still remember the first time I saw her as if it was yesterday. But the dream was about her grandmother and my father in heaven looking down on us and steering us toward one another. I never told her about the dream. She loved it and she tears up every time she reads it. Maybe you don’t always need to “verbalize.”
helloredds@gmail.com · 03/04/2016 at 10:39 AM
Hey Nate,
Thanks for stopping by to share your story with me. It sounds like your written words have really blessed your wife!
And, sometimes the written word is even more powerful than the spoken word.
Plus, you can read them over and over!
I hope your wife is doing okay with her cancer. Keep encouraging her! (Sounds like you are a great husband!)
Blessings to you,
Melanie
allthatsjas · 08/07/2015 at 11:05 AM
Thank you for always linking up your awesome advices with us at Thursday Favorite Things! I’ve been waiting for this one patiently! LOL. Blessings!
helloredds@gmail.com · 08/08/2015 at 7:27 AM
Thanks, Jas!
I hope you hear many great and encouraging things from your husband and family this weekend!
Blessings,
Mealnie
Jessica and Katie Sweet Little Ones · 08/03/2015 at 2:25 PM
I think these hit the nail on the head. For me, I love it when I’m appreciated. Sometimes he “says” it with flowers or a note or a date. I also love when he initiates praying together as a couple and also as a family. This binds us together in God’s infinite love. Thanks for sharing these with us for Tuesday Talk! I loved it 🙂 -Jess, http://www.sweetlittleonesblog.com
helloredds@gmail.com · 08/03/2015 at 3:59 PM
Thanks, Jess!
Appreciate you stopping by for a visit and to leave a kind word!
And, I do love when I am appreciated too.
Hope you are having a great day today.
I’m enjoying being a part of Tuesday Talk, and I like coming to your site!
Melanie
Nina · 08/02/2015 at 9:07 PM
These are good words of advice. Wives should print this out and share with their husbands! Thanks for sharing at my Grandma Ideas Sharing Time link party. I really appreciate your participation.
helloredds@gmail.com · 08/03/2015 at 6:50 AM
Thanks, Nina!
Appreciate you stopping by and leaving a kind word today.
Always enjoy taking part in your link up~
Hope you have a blessed day,
Melanie
Tai East · 07/31/2015 at 2:19 PM
Melanie, this is an awesome post! Loved the message that you’re sharing here! Very well written, Love! Peace and many blessings to you, sweet friend! 🙂
helloredds@gmail.com · 07/31/2015 at 6:18 PM
Hey sweet friend…
Thanks for stopping by and sharing a kind word today!
Sure am grateful for you~
Blessings,
Melanie
BlessingCounterDeb · 07/31/2015 at 11:19 AM
Melanie, I love this! I’m crazy blessed by Rev. He says all those things and daily lifts me up with his words and actions. We’ve been married 43 years and we’re still best friends!
helloredds@gmail.com · 07/31/2015 at 6:16 PM
Hey Deb,
Thanks for stopping by and leaving a kind word. So grateful you are with a good man who lifts you up. You are blessed, and share a wonderful testimony!
Hope you have a wonderful weekend~
Blessings,
Melanie
Joyce @ it's Your Life · 07/29/2015 at 7:22 PM
At first I could not think of a time my husband said any of these things to me, but the best thing I ever heard came from someone else. They told me how proud he was of the work I am doing on my magazine. That meant alot, knowing that he was boasting to others about what I do. Followed you here from the Tell it to me Tuesdays party
helloredds@gmail.com · 07/30/2015 at 11:08 AM
Hey Joyce,
That is so cool that your husband is going around bragging on you to other people. He must be very proud of you!
Hope you have a blessed day today, and thanks for making mine a little brighter by stopping by!
Melanie
purpledani9 · 07/29/2015 at 7:13 PM
I love the ideas you put forth in this post!!! I really want my readers to know about this too! I want to share this in my weekly series called “Roll Out The Red Carpet Thursday” – I share bloggers’ amazing posts that I’ve found during the week. I hope that’ ok! Have a great night!
helloredds@gmail.com · 07/30/2015 at 11:07 AM
Thanks for stopping by and leaving a kind word today. I appreciate you and your visit.
And, I will try to stop by your link – “Roll Out the Red Carpet.” Sounds like much fun!
Hope you have a blessed day~
Melanie
Katie M. Reid · 07/29/2015 at 1:41 PM
Good list! Thanks for linking up with the #RaRaLinkup via Purposeful Faith.
helloredds@gmail.com · 07/29/2015 at 2:09 PM
Thanks, Katie!
Hope you have a blessed day, and thanks for hosting~
Melanie
Alexis @ Chemistry Cachet · 07/29/2015 at 1:13 PM
What a sweet post! Thanks for stopping by my blog today. I had to come check out yours and I am so glad I did. What a wonderful and uplifting blog you have 🙂 Look forward to connecting further! Have a blessed day!
Alexis @ http://www.chemistrycachet.com
helloredds@gmail.com · 07/29/2015 at 2:09 PM
Thank you Alexis!
I’m glad you took the time to stop by today! That means a lot to me!
And, I too look forward to “hanging out” again in the future!
Blessings,
Melanie
Caro | The Twinkles Mama · 07/29/2015 at 9:29 AM
I love overhearing my husband talking *about* me to other people. It’s always lovely — so complimentary — and he’s filed with pride. He says these things to me too — but it’s always lovely to hear him saying such lovely things to others too. Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday — hope to see you again next week! x
Caro | http://www.thetwinklediaries.co.uk
helloredds@gmail.com · 07/29/2015 at 2:10 PM
Hey Caro,
Isn’t that fun when you hear your man bragging on you to others! I love that!
And, thank you for stopping by to leave a kind word today. I really appreciate you and your visit!
Hope you have a blessed day~
Melanie
holyvacationqueen · 07/28/2015 at 5:08 PM
next door on #RaRaLinkUp! Just love how you took the time to ask other’s what they most need to hear from their spouses! Beautiful reminders, and all so true!! My husband very often tells me these things–but during challenges, I forget just how often he does say beautiful, encouraging things! Thank you for your post!
helloredds@gmail.com · 07/28/2015 at 5:43 PM
Thank you for stopping by and leaving a kind word! I appreciate you and your visit!
And, you are blessed to have a man who tells you nice things! That is a real gift!
You have encouraged me today~
Blessings to you,
Melanie
Michelle · 07/28/2015 at 9:08 AM
I know one thing that melts my heart Melanie, when I hear my husband bragging about me to others. He sometimes doesn’t know I ‘m listening, but I do and his words of affirmation is all I need to be reminded of what I mean to him. This was lovely – well done again on this series. Please link up to my Tuesday Talk today or all week when you can to share with others.
helloredds@gmail.com · 07/28/2015 at 10:40 AM
Oh, Michelle, I love that too!
There is something really sweet about their kindness to us, isn’t there.
Thanks for stopping by and leaving a kind word today. I can’t wait to share your story!
Blessings,
Melanie
Anastasia · 07/25/2015 at 9:55 AM
With so many marriages falling apart today, #4 is so crucial! Great list, I completely agree with them all!
helloredds@gmail.com · 07/25/2015 at 4:12 PM
Thanks, Anastasia!
I appreciate you taking the time to leave a kind word!
Grateful for your encouragement today!
Hope you have a blessed day~
Melanie
helloredds@gmail.com · 07/24/2015 at 10:20 AM
Thank you, Randy!
Your words greatly impact me for good!
So glad I get to be married to you~
Randy Redd · 07/24/2015 at 7:36 AM
Great words of encouragement! You are such a blessing…encouragement and hope spring from your writing! Thank you for another insightful and practical post!
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