5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy Wants to Hear

Although they may not show it, boys need to hear positive words from us. Here are 5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy Wants to Hear.
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Although they may not show it, boys need to hear positive words as much (or maybe more than) girls. Here are 5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy Wants to Hear. #boys #raisingboys #raisingsons #encouragingboys


Boys.

They come in all shapes and sizes.

Not to mention, some are loud and messy; others and neat and deep-thinking.

My boy stands well over six feet tall and eats us out of house and home.

Also, he’s incredibly kind, generous, smart, and hard-working.

And, although our boys are typically less emotional and less dramatic than our girls, they still need to hear positive and affirming words from us.

Although they may shrug off your attempts to hug them and affirm them, deep inside they are listening!

So, what can you say to them?

What do they need to hear from us?


Indeed, boys may shrug off your attempts to hug them and affirm them, but deep inside they are listening! Click To Tweet


Although they may not show it, boys need to hear positive words as much (or maybe more than) girls. Here are 5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy Wants to Hear. #boys#raisingboys #raisingsons #encouragingboys

 


5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy Wants to Hear

Boys need to be encouraged just as much (if not more) than our girls.

Truly, I am privileged to be the mom of both a boy and a girl.

And, our girls have certain things they need to hear.

Today’s feature; however, is written with my son in mind.



5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy Wants to Hear:



First… “You are LOVED!”

Uniquely, we love you, period!

And… We love you as a person, as an individual, and as God’s perfect creation.

  • It doesn’t matter what you do or what you don’t do.

  • Truly, it doesn’t matter where you go or where you don’t go.

  • It doesn’t matter what you choose or what you don’t choose.

  • We just love you as you are, and nothing can change that!

  • And, by the way, your heavenly Father loves you too!


Although they may not show it, boys need to hear positive words as much (or maybe more than) girls. We can say things to them that will encourage them and lift their shoulders high. Here are 5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy Wants to Hear. #boys #raisingboys #raisingsons #encouragingboys


In fact, in Romans 8:38-39, He promises that NOTHING can change His love for us or separate us from His love:

“None of this fazes us because Jesus loves us. I’m convinced that nothing—nothing living or dead, angelic or demonic, today or tomorrow, high or low, thinkable or unthinkable—absolutely nothing can get between us and God’s love because of the way that Jesus our Master has embraced us.”


Indeed, our boys need to hear often that they are loved and accepted unconditionally, much like the way our God loves us.


Our boys need to hear often that they are loved and accepted unconditionally, much like the way our God loves us. Click To Tweet




Second… “You are GOOD at _______.” 

(Fill in the blank with at least one thing that your boy does well).

Moreover, boys need to be encouraged in their skills and abilities; they need to be verbally told that they are good at at least one thing.

Again, feeling “significant” is huge for our boys.

One fun and creative way to use encouraging phrases is to print them on custom medals, such as running medals.

Indeed, these inspirational medals can be used when he lost a game, you want to express your love, and to encourage your boy to have a happy and motivational day.


Boys need to be encouraged in their skills and abilities; they need to be verbally told that they are good at least one thing. Click To Tweet


Although they may not show it, boys need to hear positive words as much (or maybe more than) girls. We can say things to them that will encourage them and lift their shoulders high. Here are 5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy Wants to Hear. #boys #raisingboys #raisingsons #encouragingboys


Let me illustrate

For several years, I had the chance to work in an elementary school that was attended only by boys. It was an all-boys school.

As a young, single college graduate, I spent many hours everyday training, instructing, helping, and equipping 8-9-year-old young men.

Additionally, I remember one of the very first lessons that I learned about boys – they respond very well to sincere praise and compliments.

When I would offer a good word to one of my young students, I would watch his shoulders visibly lift.

There might be no other reaction, but the shoulder lift happened every time with every boy that I praised.



Boys need to have their “shoulders lifted” daily.

So, what about your boy(s):

  • What are you saying to the boys in your life that will lift their shoulders?

  • How are you sincerely complimenting their hard work?

  • And, what are the positive skills, talents, and abilities you are encouraging?



For example, my son is a computer whiz.

Since he was 18 months old, he has loved to play on, tinker with, and use computers. 

We complimented his skills from the very first time that we noticed those skills.

And, for most of his life, we have encouraged him in the direction of computers with our words, our time, and our money.

Today, my son builds his computers and does incredible video editing for his job.



What about your boy? What is the good at?

  • Maybe he is good at sports,

  • Maybe he loves to cook,

  • Or he is great with people,

  • Maybe he is an excellent writer,

  • It could be that he is mechanical and can fix anything,

  • Maybe he can argue and debate with the best,

  • Or, maybe there is some other skill that your boy has.


Whatever his skills and interests may be, I encourage you to tell your son how good he is at these things.

Open your mouth and give that young man hope! Remind them over and over about their giftedness. And, watch for the shoulder lift.


Whatever his skills and interests may be, I encourage you to tell your son how good he is at these things. Click To Tweet



Third… “God has a GREAT PLAN for your life!”

Our boys need to know that Almighty God created them as original, a one-of-a-kind masterpiece.

They also need to hear how this same God has an amazing plan for their lives. This is a great time to share Bible verses of hope with our boys.



Here are a few that I have shared and continue to share with both of my kids:

Psalm 139:13-16

Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out;
    you formed me in my mother’s womb.
I thank you, High God-you are breathtaking!
    Body and soul, I am marvelously made!
    I worship in adoration—what a creation!
You know me inside and out,
    and you know every bone in my body;
You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit,
    how I was sculpted from nothing into something.
Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth;
    all the stages of my life were spread out before you,
The days of my life were all prepared
    before I’d even lived one day.

Jeremiah 29:11

‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.’

Philippians 1:6

“being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ;”


Although they may not show it, boys need to hear positive words as much (or maybe more than) girls. We can say things to them that will encourage them and lift their shoulders high. Here are 5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy Wants to Hear. #boys #raisingboys #raisingsons #encouragingboys


Remind your boys that God does have a plan and a special purpose for their lives.

Young men especially can “lose their way” between the ages of about 16-26.

We must speak these truths into their lives.

  • Text them.

  • Email them.

  • Call them.


Remind your boys that God does have a plan and a special purpose for their lives. Click To Tweet



Fourth… “Life will have many CHALLENGES!”

We need to teach our boys that life will not be without its hard days, bad days, and really difficult moments.

We do not need to remove every obstacle from their lives or rescue them from everything hard.

Our boys need to understand what it is to work hard, face troubles, and deal with adversity.

Of course, we can support them, encourage them, and pray for them; but we must let them FACE real life.


Although they may not show it, boys need to hear positive words as much (or maybe more than) girls. We can say things to them that will encourage them and lift their shoulders high. Here are 5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy Wants to Hear. #boys #raisingboys #raisingsons #encouragingboys


As moms especially, we must not coddle them and hover over them like giant helicopters.

We must let our boys be boys so that they can become men – strong men.

And, show them how to turn to Jesus when life gets hard. Teach them to pray, to look into God’s Word, and depend upon their Savior when storms blow into their lives.

In John 16:33, Jesus promised:

“These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world, you will have tribulation, but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”

Remind your boy(s) often that life has some great challenges.


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Finally… “You were made to be STRONG, to LEAD, and to WORK HARD!”

Explain the way that God set up roles for men and women, and how things are to be established in the home.

You can use Genesis 3 and the story of Adam and Eve to explain these things to your boys.


Explain the way that God set up roles for men and women, and how things are to be established in the home. Click To Tweet



I’ve listed the particular verses that pertain to the roles that God set up:

Then he said to the woman,

“I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy,
    and in pain, you will give birth.
And you will desire to control your husband,
    but he will rule over you.”

And to the man he said,

“Since you listened to your wife and ate from the tree
    whose fruit I commanded you not to eat,
the ground is cursed because of you.
    All your life you will struggle to scratch a living from it.
It will grow thorns and thistles for you,
    though you will eat of its grains.

 By the sweat of your brow
    will you have food to eat
until you return to the ground
    from which you were made.
For you were made from dust,
    and to dust, you will return.”


Although they may not show it, boys need to hear positive words as much (or maybe more than) girls. We can say things to them that will encourage them and lift their shoulders high. Here are 5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy Wants to Hear. #boys #raisingboys #raisingsons #encouragingboys


Explain to your boys that God made them strong for a reason.

They are to lead their homes and families well and to work hard.

Teach them the importance of hard work – especially for men.



Some people may think that this is instinctive for young men, but I’m seeing a rather disturbing shift take place in this current generation of young adults.

My husband and I live in a place where we are surrounded by many twenty-somethings, most of them are newlyweds.

In many of these homes, the young women are going out and serve as breadwinners while the men stay at home and “play” or work just a little.

Many of the men are becoming the primary caretaker of the kids while these wives work all of the time.

I am not against women working at all. I applaud these young girls and their willingness to give 100% to their families. So many women are incredibly gifted and capable, and I am all for women using these talents.

And, sometimes there are unusual circumstances where a wife and mom must be the primary breadwinner.


However, I am deeply concerned about a generation of very lazy, carefree young men who are not taking up the mantle and providing for their families.

Absolutely, God specially crafted our young men to go out, work hard, and bring home provision.

And, they are “designed” to do this.

Please teach your boys to be strong leaders, to be good providers, and to get up and take care of their families.

Their future wives and kids will thank you.



Although they may not show it, boys need to hear positive words as much (or maybe more than) girls. Here are 5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy Wants to Hear. #boys #raisingboys #raisingsons #encouragingboys



Every boy needs to hear positive encouragement from their parents and those who love them.

Your boy(s) these 5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy must want to Hear:

1) “You are LOVED!”

2) “You are GOOD at _____________.”

3) “God has a GREAT PLAN for your life!”

4) “Life will have many CHALLENGES!”

5) “You were made to be STRONG, to LEAD, and to WORK HARD!”


Today, I encourage you to open your mouth and start speaking these things into your boy’s life!



Want more parenting encouragement?

The Danger of Losing Your Child’s Heart

7 Positive Ways to Pray for Middle Schoolers

5 Things Every Girl Needs to Hear

7 Stellar Ways to Pray for Teens

How to Powerfully Pray for that Child that is Away 

How to Enjoy Your Kids Right Now

 




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Although they may not show it, boys need to hear positive words as much (or maybe more than) girls. Here are 5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy Wants to Hear. #boys #raisingboys #raisingsons #encouragingboys

Although they may not show it, boys need to hear positive words as much (or maybe more than) girls. Here are 5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy Wants to Hear. #boys #raisingboys #raisingsons #encouragingboys

Although they may not show it, boys need to hear positive words as much (or maybe more than) girls. Here are 5 Powerful Phrases Every Boy Wants to Hear. #boys #raisingboys #raisingsons #encouragingboys

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49 Comments

  1. Hello Melanie,
    I have just stumbled upon your blog. Thank you so much for the information shared therein. I agree entirely.
    We have a co-educational school with over 600 children.
    Since 2015, I have discovered my calling inclined towards mentoring boys. I have actually studied a lot of material in this area, follow many sites on boy/men mentorship.
    I am profoundly excited by your blog. Thank you so much.
    By the way, your blog has encouraged to start a boys only elementary school.
    Thank you once again.

  2. Thanks so much for this post. I saw the link on Pinterest and I read it. I have been on Pinterest for well over 4 years. However this is the first post I saved. As a father of two boys, I find it very helpful. Thanks so much for sharing, God bless you richly

  3. Well – as a believer I am very much in agreement with all of these very important truths and that it is vital for our boys to hear them and see us being the living example of them. I am though very puzzeled and a bit disturbed really that you say we are to teach our boys that God has given men and women different roles….?!??- I really do hope that I misunderstood this and nobody in your country actually believes this!!! Where I live and lived Paris, Sevilla, Madrid, Zürich, Hamburg, Barcelona, Heidelberg, Luzern (the born again christians that I know) we are all convinced that the Lord commands us men and women alike to be equally hard working, taking a lead, taking responsibility for our talents, actions and our calling. But we all can choose! Both girls and boys have the same rights and the same duties and it depends on their gifting in which field they will be of tremendeous blessing for the gospel and our neighbours! Maybe my boy has a very soft and nurturing soul and my daughter is a tough, physically strong girl – enjoying practial hard work – I am convinced that teaching children a certain role they should fill out or develop into, will eventually cause damage to socity (inequality, gender biased expectations…) and definitely it wll be harmful to some of the children, when desperately trying to comply and fit in a role like this, batteling their own confusion or worse, even fear of contradicting the word of God and thus believing they fell from his grace…They could struggle with guilt and shame if they don’t succed. It causes kids that do not fit these roles to blame themselves for having to lie to their families/ church congregations by pretending to be happy in these roles, pretending to accept these roles (without agreeing with it) … When there is no way out, no one to talk to honestly about their struggles – if these boys (or girls) don’t dare to disagree with these., it could easy happen that their trust in others, in themselves and even in God, is endangered to deteriorate…… So I am quite doubtful in this area (but then again – I live in Europe and our culture is maybe not as conservative… ) Just a thought.

    • Hey Susanne,

      Thanks so much for taking the time to leave such thoughtful comments. I’m grateful for what you have shared.

      And, I believe you are so right. Our society does not think about gender and roles in this way – in most countries.

      Although my comments are not popular or even politically correct, my beliefs and writing are all based on the Bible. So, we have to go back and look at God’s original plan in the garden. If we read Genesis 1-3 closely, we see how God intended our roles to be set up.

      Honest conversations are great and needed. And, I am always open to talk about these things.

      However, my heart is to look at everything through the lens of scripture no matter what the culture tells us.

      Sure do appreciate you stopping by and sharing your heart.
      I hope you will visit again!
      Blessings,
      Melanie

  4. Melanie. I was moved to tears reading your article as these were things I longed to hear as child, adolescent, and young adult. I still live w the pain of not having my parents speak these words into my life.
    I have almost missed the opportunity with my son who is 24yo. Only through therapy and the love of Christ and other men am I healing enough where I realize realize what my son needs. I will certainly incorporate these principles in our relationship now.
    God bless for your ministry

    • Hey Roland,
      Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. It sounds like you had a very painful upbringing.
      However, what a joy for you to be able to pour love and grace into your son’s life.
      You are changing the trajectory for generations to come!
      Amen!
      Way to go!
      Melanie

  5. Thank you! These phrases are real, simple, and needed! – I love encouraging and guiding my son, this post is lovely tool.

  6. I loved this post. You are right about so many things, although you quoted the Bible verses incorrectly, and by doing so lost the correct meaning. It states “cursed is the ground FOR thy sake.” He cursed it so that we might learn to work, and appreciate things, to teach us things. Please don’t change our Lords words to fit what you need it to say, even if what you say is correct. Your writing is needed and beautiful, your message is true.

    • Hey Megan,
      Thanks so much for taking the time to write a comment.
      I appreciate you stopping by!
      And, I don’t believe I have gotten this passage out of context at all, but I appreciate your input.
      Hope you have a blessed day~
      Melanie

  7. Great I use these with my husband my father and my brother as well or some version…but I also give them permission to cry and to express their emotions. Men/boys have feelings to and its important to let them know that it’s OK to feel sad or upset. Then help them to process their emotions in a healthy way.
    Thanks for your great post to encourage the males in our lives,
    Shonna

    • Hey Shanna,
      Sure do appreciate you stopping by to leave a good word.
      And, our men do need to process their emotions. So true!
      Appreciate you and your encouragement!
      Blessings,
      Melanie

  8. Thank your for your comments! I have 2 boys after raising 3 girls and I can see the need to strengthen our boys! Our culture is taking away their masculinity. I read this article the other day- I think you will like how it ties in with the roles of women that you’re talking about.
    https://happiness-seekers.com/2018/04/30/gods-secret-tribute-to-women-a-hebrew-word-that-will-change-the-way-you-see-womanhood/?fbclid=IwAR3oz4mhl4CH4mu0PwY27f6gNT9CqTXiiOhJ4ih7ykBHoE4he_55cZpapJ0

  9. I am absolutely horrified at your overt encouragement of “traditional ” roles of man and woman!!!! Wake up! Stop undermining everything women have achieved! We are not on this earth to be “ruled ” over by men, or by our husbands! I cringe to think that this is what you think we need to teach our sons.

    • Thanks so much for stopping by to leave your thoughts.
      And, I am certainly undermining anti-woman! I’m all FOR women succeeding and thriving and achieving!
      As far as my thinking – it’s only as overtly traditional and outdated as the Bible. That’s where this teaching comes from. It may be cringe-worthy to some, but it’s the truth of God’s Word.

      • I think as a person blessed with enough intellect to write an otherwise good post, you might see that though the Bible has many solid teachings, it has been written by MEN, who are by their nature (as all humans are, men & women), flawed. So it’s our job to use our intelligent minds to interpret the Bible, which includes considering what was culturally relevant at the time may not necessarily make it what God wants for us or how he has created us. There are a lot of screwy things in the Bible that can be understood through the lens of history but need not apply to our every action or ways of thinking of our inherent value. All people should respect each other, especially within families.

        • Hey Liz,
          Thanks so much for taking the time to stop by and leave your comments.
          And, yes, although the Bible was penned by males, it was ultimately written by God Himself – See 2 Timothy 3:16-17.
          Additionally, it really doesn’t matter what the culture thinks/does. The Bible stands the test of time and still relates in 2019. My prayer is that we will carefully read, interpret, and apply God’s Word.
          And, we should all respect each other – especially in families. Great point!
          Hope you’ll stop by again!
          Blessings,
          Melanie

  10. I love these! I would add that they need to hear: ‘I respect you’ or ‘I respect how you did ___.’ I recently read the ‘mother son respect effect’ and it was eye opening and powerful on the topic of respect!

  11. Thank you for sharing these five powerful phrases that every boy needs to hear! I have been apart from my 14 year old for almost two years. It has been the hardest thing I have ever been through! I love him so much! I was with him every day of his life, talking to him about his day, praying with him at night, hugging him every chance I got, and having him with me everywhere I went unless he was with his dad or in school. It has changed my life! Please keep me in prayer! Thank you again!

  12. As a mom of three young adult sons, I’d say you hit this one out of the park, Melanie! And number 4 was often where I was weakest–especially with my youngest, who also happens to be a computer whiz! I didn’t know we had that in common! 😉 He left college after a year and a half, taking off with a friend to move to LA. He hoped to find a job with a start up company–believing the places where he wanted to get a job would not care a bit about his college degree. This sent this hovering mother into a meltdown! But he showed me! Six months later he had a job offer at a start up company in Denver and is now making around $150,000 a year! Of course, we praise him for his career choices now! Lol! Thanks for this important reminder! I’ll be pinning it up, sweet friend!

    • Hey Beth,
      Thanks so much for your visit and your kind words!
      And, it sounds like you’ve raised some amazing boys!
      I know you are proud of them all.
      Sure am blessed by you and your ministry~
      Melanie

  13. Hi Melanie

    It’s my first time on your site. Thoroughly enjoyed your post. We have 2 sons under 5 and we’re learning to be better parents everyday.

    I’ve been inspired by your post today. Thank you.

    By the way, on the subject of boys, there is a great book worth checking out. It’s called “Raising Boys” by Steve Biddulph. I believe he is a Christian too.

    Thanks again.

    • Hey Ken,
      Thanks so much for stopping by!
      It sounds like you are busy with those two little guys!
      So glad you were inspired.
      And, thanks for the book suggestion. I’ll check it out.
      Hope you have a wonderful day~
      Melanie

  14. I love this post ,Melanie ! I praise the Lord for such an anointing over you.

    I am going to save this because I am still an amateur mama raising her triplets ( 2B and 1G)

    I want my boys to be leaders in their own homes and as I raise them now may I words be ever graceful filled with valuable words .

  15. Thank you! <3, <3
    My sons are still young (1 and 3) I am so glad I saw this now!
    Can I also just say, I love your blogging style? Good organization, good supplementals, good intro + conclusion, good all around…. A pleasure to read, not to mention fantastic content! THANK YOU!

    • Thank you, Carolyn!
      Your boys are the perfect age to start sharing these good words with! Oh, hug them for me. My boy is 25!
      And, thank you for your kind words! You bless me today!
      Please stop by again. It’s so nice to connect with you~
      Blessings,
      Melanie

  16. Hi, Melanie! Heading over to check out the rest of your post. Wanted to let you know you are going to be one of the Featured Posts this afternoon on #SocialButterflySunday! Thanks for sharing and hope you have a wonderful week 🙂

  17. I really enjoyed reading your post today. I have 2 sons and 2 daughters. My oldest boy is 19 and youngest boy is 10. How I wish I had learned these lessons when my oldest was a little boy!!! This post offers great advice for moms of boys! I just didn’t know, when I first had kids, how important affirmation is to our young men (really to every child). God has grown me so much over the years.

    • Hey Renee,
      Thanks for stopping by to leave a good word today and for sharing your story.
      It’s never too late to affirm our young men and our old men!
      You go girl! That 19 year old will LOVE the good words!
      Sounds like you are a good mom – always learning and growing!
      Keep going strong~
      Blessings,
      Melanie

  18. I also had trouble with the comment section on Missional Motherhood, so I’m copying it here for you:

    Such good stuff here, Melanie. I’m taking these tips to heart as I parent and encourage my 10 year old. I love the image of “lifting his shoulders daily”. That is my goal!
    Blessings,
    Marva | sunSPARKLEshine

    • Sorry you had trouble over at Missional Motherhood. I’ll let them know that the comments section isn’t working well!
      And, thanks for taking the time to stop by and leave a good word here!
      Keep on loving those babies and lifting their shoulders!
      You are a GREAT mom!

  19. I followed the link, but it didn’t seem like I was able to post my comment over there. Kept getting a page not found error. So, here is my comment…. Great tips, Melanie! I do better at some of these than others. Thanks for the reminder to be more intentional about making sure my sons hear the RIGHT things from me! Blessings!

    • Hey Liz,
      Sorry you had trouble with the link. Sometimes those gremlins get in the machinery and clog up the works!
      And, thanks for your kind words! It sounds like you are a great mom!
      Keep on encouraging those boys! Your words will make a huge difference in their lives!
      Hope you have a blessed day~
      Melanie

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