5 MORE Things Every Man Loves to Hear

Last summer the most amazing thing happened.

I interviewed my husband, asking him what men liked to hear, and then I wrote a post about it.

The response from readers was amazing!

What is it that men really want to hear? What can women say to encourage their boyfriends, husbands, and friends? This article will give you 5 great ways you can encourage your man. These are 5 more things men really love to hear. #men #dating #marriage

5 MORE Things Every Man Loves to Hear

More than any other post I’ve ever written, this post has been read, shared, pinned, and liked.

The post is called “5 Things Every Man LOVES to Hear.”

You can read that post HERE.

To follow up on that post, I once again sat down with my very wise man and asked him:

“Are there 5 MORE things that men like to hear?”

As anticipated, he came through with some more amazing insights from the world of “men.”

Here are 5 More Things Every Man Likes to Hear – from the woman in his life:

1) Let’s go and do that thing that you really love to do!

For my man, this is the shooting range.

For yours, it may be golf, the driving range, a sporting event, working on an engine, watching an action movie, or something else.

In order for this to really be sweet to our men – we must participate and not be doing anything else.

Go all in on this, Sisters!

They will love it if you do!

Why does this matter to our men?

(It makes them feel like you are investing in them and in what they enjoy. It demonstrates tangible love to them.)

2) Let’s go and do something together that we both love to do!

Our men like to spend time with the woman they love AND have fun all at the same time! Click To Tweet

For my husband and me, we might take a walk at the nearby park, go to a movie, go out to dinner, or play a round of golf.

Find something that you and your man can enjoy doing together.

This may be hard, but it will be well worth the effort.

Why does this matter to our men?

(They like to spend time with us. And, to be able to enjoy time with us and time having fun is a double treat to them! They get a win/win!)

3) Thank you for helping me with __________.

Our men like to hear very specific thanks for very specific actions. Click To Tweet

Don’t be general here.

Be very factual and specific.

An example – “Thank you for editing my article for me. I missed a lot of mistakes, and I’m so glad you caught them. I would have hated for that article to go public with so many errors. I’m so grateful for your keen eye and attention to detail. You help to make my writing better.”

Why does this matter to our men?

(They like to know that they have met a SPECIFIC need in our lives.)

4) You really made a difference in someone else’s life!

Our men like to hear that they have made a difference in someone else's life. Click To Tweet

For example, my husband loves it when I tell him how much he has made an impact on one of our kids.

I might say, “Thanks for taking the time to talk to Emily yesterday. You really helped her to work through that school issue that she was dealing with.”

Or, I might say, “Riley loved having dinner with you last night. He told me that he really likes to talk about work situations with you.”

Why does this matter to our men?

(They need to know that they are making a difference in people’s lives around them and that you noticed!)

5) (This one is not a specific thing to say…)

According to my man — They like to hear our voices – especially when our voices are soft, positive, and kind.

My husband loves to hear me read to our kids, pray, or talk softly at night.

He often tells me that he loves my voice, and he really loves it when my voice is soft, positive, and kind.

It’s very likely that your man feels the same way about your voice.

Why not try this experiment…

Ask your man — When do you most enjoy hearing my voice? 

A woman speaking with a wise and kind voice is biblical. Click To Tweet

When we read about the most excellent woman in the Bible (the one in Proverbs 31), we read:

“When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule for everything she says.”

Proverbs 31:26, TLB

What is it that men really want to hear? What can women say to encourage their boyfriends, husbands, and friends? This article will give you 5 great ways you can encourage your man. These are 5 more things men really love to hear. #men #dating #marriage

Can I share a story with you as I close?

A few years ago, I was playing a round of golf with my husband.

We were in the golf cart at the “turn.” This is that juncture in the golf game when you get to run into the clubhouse for snacks and a quick bathroom break.

As we were getting out of our cart, another golf cart pulled up next to us containing two male golfers.

They looked over to me and one of them said, “I wish my wife would come out and play with me. I’ve asked her, and I can’t get her out here for anything. She’s just not interested.”

And, since that time, I’ll bet I’ve had over 50 men say that very same thing to me, “I wish I could get my wife (or my girlfriend) out here to play. I would love it if she’d try.”

To all of the women who are reading this post, I have a great SECRET for you!

Try to enjoy something that your husband enjoys! Click To Tweet

You don’t have to love everything he loves.

You don’t even have to be good at those things he is good at.

However, if you truly love that man, you can learn to play a sport, or hunt, or water ski, or fish, or whatever.

Your man wants you to be with him!

Your man likes having you around!

I dare you to sacrificially invest your time, your energy, your attention, and your life into something your man loves.

If you do this, I truly believe your man is going to respond to you in ways you are going to love!! (I’ve never seen this one fail!)

Two other things:

1} Don’t miss the first post about things men like to hear! You can link to it HERE.

2} Would you like to read more about marriage and gain more understanding of how men think?

Here are a few books I highly recommend on marriage and relationships:

The Love Dare by Alex Kendrick and Stephen Kendrick. You can find out more HERE.

His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage by Willard F. Jr. Harley. You can find out more about this book HERE.

Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Emerson Eggerichs. You can discover more about this book HERE.

So, what do you think?

Do you think your man would like to hear these things?

Would you try them out with him?

And, I’d love to hear back from you… What do you say to your man that he really loves to hear?

Were you encouraged by what you read today?

Would you share this article with a friend, co-worker, or family member?

Maybe you can send it to a friend or family member?

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26 thoughts on “5 MORE Things Every Man Loves to Hear

  1. Thank you for sharing.
    Sharing is caring ❤ 👍
    I appreciate that u shared your memories also as a realy true example.

    1. Thank you!
      I’m so glad you stopped by today!
      Examples and stories help me to learn and to remember. I hope they help others as well.
      I hope you’ll have a wonderful day today~

  2. Hi Melanie,

    I found your blog through a post on Pinterest and have enjoyed reading the Five Things Men Like to Hear and Five More Things. Both were excellent and thought provoking. Before reading your post to my husband, I tried asking him the same question you asked your husband. He responded immediately with a detailed list, and I wish I had had a pencil handy. He had hearing “I love you” top on his list, and also “We did well” which might be something I say in response to a goal we met together or success on a shared project. We do a lot together! I have learned to fish in the past few years after encouraging him to get his own boat after his father and longtime fishing buddy passed away. I believe this was and will always be a moment in our marriage that deepened our bond like nothing else. Spending quiet sunrises or sunsets together on the water is beautiful time together. I agree with your advice that women try to find a way to enjoy and activity their husband loves like golfing, fishing, tennis, etc. Don’t worry about doing well, just try it out. At first I was pretty crummy at fishing, but I let my husband know that I wanted his guidance. He became more patient than he ever was before because I needed him in a new way. He is my forever fishing guide. How fun!
    Thanks for your blog,

    1. Hey Deneice,

      Thanks so much for stopping by to leave a kind word today! It’s so good to hear from you.

      And, I love the things that your man shared with you! It is awesome that you are fishing with him. I can see you on that boat asking him how to cast and how to bait that hook! What fun! (You are a very wise woman!)

      I’m encouraged that you were encouraged. And, I love hearing how well you are doing in your marriage! You go, Girl! Keep going strong and having fun with that man.

      You’ve blessed me by your visit today!
      Drop by anytime~

  3. I just found your blog through pinterest and we are both Memphians! Would you recommend those books for wives and husbands to read or just wives? Also, what books do you recommend for men to read?

    1. Hey Kell,
      It’s nice to “meet” you! And, I love that you are a Memphis girl. We will have to meet one day out there in real life!!
      As far as books for men, it may depend on your man. Mine is not a big reader. He will go to a conference or a class on marriage, but he doesn’t really like to read marriage books.
      You might look for some podcasts or YouTube videos (by these authors) – if you think your husband would like that better.
      Also, see what your church is offering for couples or for men. Maybe you can attend a class together?
      As for our marriage – the very best thing I’ve done it to pray like crazy and love my man well. God has to do all of the rest!
      Hope this helps.
      Glad to connect~

  4. What a great post, Melanie! These are all great things to keep in mind. It can be so easy to just be lazy in our relationships, but making an effort to build our husbands up is one of the most loving things we can do. In my two years of marriage, I have found that a soft, gentle and kind voice goes a long way with my husband. 🙂

    1. Hey Lauren,
      Thanks so much for stopping by to visit and leave a good word today.
      And, you are so right. It’s so easy to get lazy. I pray that we will make more effort to keep our marriages strong!
      That soft, gentle, kind voice does always go a long way! You are obviously a very wise young woman!
      (By the way, I sent you some Pinterest invites.)
      Glad to connect with you~

  5. Beautiful Melanie! We did the “Love and Respect” book in our small groups at Church. We really enjoyed it. It is so nice to read posts about the man in our lives.

    If I haven’t done so, I would love to invite you over at Blogger Spotlight Link and Pin-it Party! It runs every Thursdays, 7pm PST until Tuesdays, 7pm. We pin all the entries and you will be seen on five blogs. Hope to see you there! Have a blessed day!!

    1. Thank you!
      So glad you stopped by today and left a kind word.
      And, I’ll try to get by your Link and Pin party on Thursdays. It sounds like a great event!
      Hope you have a wonderful weekend~

  6. Good morning Mel. Yes, I need to be a little more intentional on a few of these. Always good to hear the man’s perspective on things.

  7. I liked the tip about being specific in what we thank our husbands for. I thank him all the time for general things, but I will try being more specific.

  8. Glad to see you at Waiting on Wednesday! Number Five? How true is that? Our tone makes all the difference. Thanks so much for linking to Waiting on Wednesday! Great article!

  9. I love that you did a follow up to 5 Things Your Husband Wants to Hear. Both of these posts are so good! Your golf story made me think about a little deal mu husband and I have. We both spend every weekend at our kid’s sporting events in this season of our lives, but we know that this season will eventually end- and we’ve talked about, what then? Our plan is to learn to play golf together at that point. Having that plan helps me to not be so sad about the fact that our kids are growing up so quickly and it gives me something to look forward to with my husband.

    1. Thanks, Dawn! I appreciate your kind words!
      And, I think every couple ought to have some “AK” plans for After the Kids are gone!
      Golf is fun, and we get to be together outdoors in beautiful settings! I highly recommend it!
      Hope you have a great evening~

  10. Melanie, Good, insightful post!

    I actually experienced one of those situations where a light went off as I saw my husband’s response when I surprised him on his birthday and said, is there a movie you would like to go see, we can go if you want. He was like YEAH!!! So we went to see Captain America on opening day! I am not at all an action movie type gal, but I have to say I enjoyed the movie and most of all I enjoyed the fact that it made my husband happy.

    Thanks for sharing!

    1. Hey Karen,
      Thanks for stopping by to leave a comment!
      I’ll bet your husband LOVED Captain America! Sounds like you did well!
      Isn’t it amazing how simple it is to make our men happy!
      Appreciate your affirmation today!

  11. Melanie, great, great post! Several years ago I decided to learn something that my husband loves, but I did not love so much. That something was FOOTBALL. I had no idea about the rules or the plays, and usually could not even find the ball on the field. When I decided that watching football was something we could do together, I asked Greg to teach me about the game. He was a wonderful teacher and we enjoyed sitting together watching the games. Now, I love football almost as much as he does. SCORE! for my marriage!

    1. You go, Girl!
      I love this story, Leah!
      And, I’ve heard similar stories from so many women.
      We had the same experience with golf. Randy taught me to play, and now I enjoy it too!
      Thanks for the kind words today~

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